I'm 32, relatively attractive, in decent shape male with a good career, education, condo etc. I tend to go from one relationship to the next. The women are quality so it isn't like I can't attract quality women. However, I fall for women way too fast and then get jealous when I hear that they've had FWB arrangements in the past. It hasn't caused the demise of any relationships but it has bothered me when it really shouldn't. I feel I get this way because I haven't had a FWB before. ONS yes, something ongoing and mostly sexual - no. This is my "holy grail" in terms of sex/romance.

I'm recently single. I'm taking sometime over the holidays and into January to reflect, to reconnect with my passions and to get in even better shape (I'm at 14-15% BF at the moment). I've been reading Mark Manson's "Models" and it really resonates with me. I know what I want: women aged 25-35 (prefer women closer to my age), educated, worldly, adventurous, well travelled and fun. And I'd like it to be on a casual/FWB basis. Ideally 2-3 quality women.

My plan is to hit Tinder and Bumble in February with professional photos that showcase who I am in the best possible light to attract the type of women I am after. I won't be going with any shirtless selfies. One picture of me in a tight undershirt, one in a suit, one cooking and a few travel/social photos that show my adventurous side. I want to be open about my intentions when asked by women, polarize and be outcome independent. Be the best version of myself! I'd invite them out for a drink/coffee near my place, see if there is attraction and a connection in person and then invite them back to my place if there is. In terms of meeting people offline, I am going to go to meetups and just chat with people that I come across. The goal will be less about finding women but more about getting to know new people and making new connections. If something more happens from those interactions, it's gravy.

This has been eating me up a bit and I've been ruminating over it so this is why I'm posting here for some feedback.

  1. Do I have a good action plan? Are my goals realistic?

  2. For establishing a FWB arrangement, is it better to close on the first date?

  3. Will this help with my retroactive jealousy when I eventually do go for something more long term?

  4. Any blind spots you see or any other advice?

Thanks everyone - seduction is by far my favorite sub reddit!