How do I ask him to meet?

saffron25 · 2020-06-06T16:16:51+00:00

(A) looks like you just want some friendly professional career advice

(B) makes you sound a bit crazy especially considering you only met once a year ago (no disrespect intended)

Just drop a message to him saying Hi (is that you from the event last year etc). Men are simple creatures, we aren't complicated like Women lol.

caesarfecit · 2020-06-06T16:41:31+00:00

I see this actually with a lot of girls. Where they meet a guy, he shows some interest, she plays along but doesn't really put much back into it, wonders why he never follows up or goes passive, and now they're in the bind where they want to jump his bones, but feel they've got no way of getting his attention without putting their cards on the table and that's just sounds crazy to her.

Sound about right?

Great chemistry is all about give and take. It's like a dance, except people trade off leading and following. It seems like a lot of girls these days take men leading things to the bedroom for granted (especially in our #currentyear culture where male sexuality is demonized). Men will still lead, but they need a dance partner. Someone who will play along, that will fill a silence, that will inject a little bit of her own sexuality into the equation to spice things up.

If you're having trouble restarting things, or getting some flirtation going of your own initiative, maybe what you could do is pick up a copy of Models by Mark Manson and focus on the last couple chapters where he goes over the nuts and bolts of flirting. Basically there's two main moves, teasing and leading, and it's all about making little moves that the other person can respond positively to by buying in or negatively by ignoring it or not buying in.

I'm not surprised you're struggling. I think a lot of girls are. The game has totally changed in the last 50 odd years and society as a whole has not really caught up. And as much as there are men struggling, there are women having trouble too.

2020-06-06T17:03:07+00:00

You have his contact be directly send an invitation to go out be clear ad straight dont take curves, go for what you want.. gamble

saffron25 · 2020-06-06T17:12:33+00:00

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thekjal · 2020-06-06T16:25:17+00:00

Hey

well as the first reply said we are just simple man just throw the first msgs and he will do the rest especially if u show the interest on him and come directly for ex what abt tht coffee shop or restaurant have u tried it before and throw ur shot to meet no man will refuse a girl want to meet unless hes married

Same-Active-5595 · 2020-06-06T20:02:56+00:00

It's so funny to see us ugly guys in these cope sub reddits try and actually convince ourselves that you can say a correct combination of words or act a certain way and women will like you. Then some girl comes in and reveals the real truth : looks are all that matters. She literally can't forget this guy over a year later because he was cute and is so thirsty to have casual sex with him.

This seduction stuff is all a sad cope for ugly men. Fact.

OP, I can't give you any advice. But I do want to thank you for making this thread and I hope it works out between you and him. If not, I hope you mind someone else you are super into. All the best.

quinnmcd · 2020-06-06T21:24:29+00:00

This post had to be taken down because it appears to be focused on a specific situation or person. While Field Reports deal with specific situations and people, remember that the focus is different:

A field report explains a lesson learned or demonstrates a Seduction concept.
If the point of this post is asking how to get that specific girl, it belongs in AskSeddit.

No worries though! Though the thread has been taken down, any conversations you have started here can still continue, and if you want to PM a mod to get their opinion on this thread, feel free to do so and they will still be able to weigh in.

For next time, remember that posts about a specific situational advice with a specific person are fine as field should be directed to Ask Seddit (/r/askseddit), not to be confused with Ask Reddit.

Title	How do I ask him to meet?
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Upvotes	8
Comments	16
Date	June 6, 2020 4:01 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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