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[–]IronManSeduction 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (13 children) | Copy Link
Added her on Instagram to see if she had a boyfriend and she does, but she has never mentioned him. I think she is gorgeous and she has a great personality. Should I make a move? Will I look creepy? I’m kind of confused, any advice would help!
You just answered your own question. If she has a boyfriend, why are you even bothering?
[–]virtus1900 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
I guess you're right. I am bothering because I'm really attracted her to her and her personality. But like I said, I tested her before I knew by asking her to study and she said she would let me know. Which she didn't. So, maybe I'll just continue to talk to her, but not pursue her.
[–]IronManSeduction 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
If you have to cut her out of your life to make it easier on you, then do it. You're not obligated to stay friends with her, especially if it's difficult for you to stay only friends.
[–]virtus1900 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
You do make a really good point, I've had some social anxiety the past couple of years so talking to her definitely helps me. But, at the same time, its almost like a tease every time I sit next to her. I have the class tomorrow, so I think I may see how it goes one last time. Wondering if I should try to almost test her to see if she is interested in me, but she probably would have made it clear by now lmao. I'll give it one more go tomorrow.
[–]Skattin 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
She's not worth your time.
[–]virtus1900 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Fair enough, you think I should just sit somewhere else randomly? It is a big room but she will obviously know and see me. How should I go about it?
[–]Skattin 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yeah do what you want. You don't owe her anything.
[–]virtus1900 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ok, I'll definitely consider it. Thanks.
[–]IronManSeduction 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Sure, you can give it one more go. But you have to ask yourself what you're trying to get out of this. If she already has a boyfriend, what sort of 'interest' are you trying to get out of her?
Because it seems like the only outcomes you are trying to achieve are:
Getting her to break up with her boyfriend to start dating you; or
Get her to start seeing you behind her boyfriend's back.
[–]virtus1900 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Yeah you're right, I keep trying to rationalize shit, like "oh maybe they broke up." Which is complete BS. Besides sitting somewhere else, do you think there is anything positive I can get by sitting next to her?
[–]IronManSeduction 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
The only positive way you can get by continuing to be involved with her is if:
If any part of you is still holding out for the possibility of getting sexual/romantic with her, then no.
Yeah true, I do like having someone to talk to in that class. Additionally, I wouldn't mind being just friends with her either. I just don't know how to go about hanging out with her, because I'm sure she has attractive friends.
[–]IronManSeduction 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Then just treat her as any other friend that you have. Make plans with her to do stuff, and invite your own friends and ask her to invite her friends.
I hear ya makes total sense. I lost all of my friends the past couple years. I'll figure out something, maybe ask her to grab coffee or something. Thanks for your insight with this situation, its been very helpful.
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