I'm a woman, about to turn 20, and I've dated 3 guys in my life so far. That isn't many, but they were long relationships, the first when I was 14. Now, i'm the most shy and awkward person ever, but once I realize I want a guy, I go for him. At first very innocently, with little hints and a confession of liking them. My SO now was very compatible with me, however, a lot of sensual tension but he was very oblivious. So I was very foreward, even pulling him on top of me, he got the picture then. Sometimes you need sutble advances, sometimes you need to just put the whole truth out there about what you want, and sometimes (if you have a lot of mutual tension) you have to make it clear what you want to happen.