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[–]asakalangley 2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I think this question is a bit of a red herring. On the surface, I think it’s fair to say most women love a guy with great hair. It’s sexy, sign of health and youthful vitality.
Now with that said: a fundamental attractor beyond PUA games is CONFIDENCE....in his looks, in his appearance, in his aspirations and future goals. We’ve all seen the out of shape funny guy date above his station...confidence is how he pulls that off.
A lot of “seduction” pre-game is working on yourself. Physically and emotionally. Feeling confident as a bald man would be dramatically more successful than a less confident guy with a great head of hair.
[–]Dontfeedthelocals[S] 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I completely agree with this.
But I guess then you'd say confident me with hair would probably get more success than confident me without hair?
I mean it's a weird one because I imagine using anti-balding products every day and consatntly checking to make sure it looks ok would add a whole new insecurity to the mix.
Where as not having any hair may suck at first but at least I can get used to it and become confident as that guy without needing to second guess my hair all the time.
[–]asakalangley 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This is a great point. I think my message would be: striving to keep your hair may allow you to avoid confronting a version of you confident in yourself regardless of your shortcomings. Plenty of attractive men are able to avoid confronting their insecurities until they are older and it’s generally not a pretty sight. Hair or not, confront the feelings that make you wonder “what a woman wants”. What do YOU want? Go make it happen :)
[–]Dontfeedthelocals[S] 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes this is spot on, and something I've thought about quite a bit. Been working on my inner game for years, counselling and meditation has given me a good insight into my inner world, and I've definitely got a lot more love for myself and my imperfections than I did in my twenties. But not caring about how I look is definitely still very difficult, and there's still a big part of me which cares far too much what other people think.
So I agree that just shaving my head and working on my inner game from there could well be the wisest move. On the flip side I keep thinking that we do live in a very superficial world and that more doors will be open to me with women and in life if people think I look 'good'.
Again, I'm not saying bald men don't look good, but I was also dealt a bitter pill while I had cancer recently that due to having four teeth missing in my lower jaw, my jaw has decreased in size quite a lot (and just looks a bit weird/not very natural now) So adding going bald to that where a strong jawline seems to count for a lot just seems a bit much! Not sure if i'll recognise the guy who comes out the other side!
So I'm conflicted, somewhat justifying trying to keep my hair for a few years if I can, but I might be a bit far gone already. Either way thanks for your input, it's what I need to hear!
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[–]Dontfeedthelocals[S] 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah sounds like good advice, im also pretty far into growing myself a lockdown beard which might help my look a bit.
[–]Sheliesawake 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Bald men are sexy.
[–]Dontfeedthelocals[S] 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Thanks Sheliesawake, I needed that!
[–]Sheliesawake 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You’re welcome! I mean I think so. Every woman has her preferences. I also love beards and chubby guys
[–]Dontfeedthelocals[S] 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Well two out of three ain't bad.
[–]Sheliesawake 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
:)
[–]quinnmcd[M] [score hidden] 6 years ago stickied comment (0 children) | Copy Link
This post/comment has been removed because it violates Rule #5: The topic is too broad, has been covered a lot already, or involves the assumption overly limited by race, age, physical limitations/appearance, and/or other inborn external qualities.
Put in some reading & work before asking questions that have been addressed, like: * How do I approach? * How do I get a number? * How do I talk to girls at college? * How/When do I kiss a girl? * Does this really work?
As for the last one, it is an answered question. There have been many posts on physical limitations over the years, including this one. No need to re-ask it.
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