I'd just like to get your thoughts on dating younger women. Im 35, soon to be 36, and while I can be attracted to all ages, races, styles of women, something about girls in their early 20s, possibly even 18-19, has always done something for me.

On the one hand, I think this is probably pretty normal, women are in their sexual prime at this age and we're designed to be attracted to the way their bodies look. And even though there are plenty of strong personalities out there that would deem this UNACCEPTABLE, I've also found that women tend to mature a lot quicker than men, and that there are just as many immature 50 years olds out there as there are 21 year olds with their heads screwed on, that a lot of the time, age really is just a number. So i've never really seen it as weird to be attracted to younger women just because a certain social narrative says I should.

On the other hand, as I get older I'm starting to wonder if it is weird. I've had some pretty fucked up things happen with my health the last few years so I've been out of the dating pool for the last 4 years, and I've gone from early thirties to mid, and for all I know by the time my health improves and I'm meeting women again, I could be late thirties/early forties, and suddenly it's seeming like a whole other age gap. It doesn't help that I don't really feel any older since my life has been on pause for this time.

I've also been watching some day game videos recently, and its remarkable how often the men, usually late thirties/early forties are approaching college girls, even saying things like are you 18? Wow, you look 18! Something just made me feel a bit uncomfortable about it, as though they were fetishizing the young age.

So I'm suddenly not so sure where I stand with it. It also doesn't help that I spent my 20s being timid with women and missed SO many opportunities, worked hard on my inner game, genuinely got that inner strength which women seem to just feel in the room, and then BOOM...cancer. I used to look young for my age too and I was fairly good looking but this last few years has kind of done a number on all that, so I worry maybe I have gone from a guy that girls in that age range would be interested in to one they could easily find creepy!

Anyway, i'm not someone who tends to let social norms tell me how to behave, but in order to act confidently in my actions they need to be rooted in what I believe is reasonable behaviour. I've been a weird outcast from society for a good few years as I try to sort out my health so I'd really appreciate any insights on how other people view this stuff.