The women I've gone the furthest with, including sex and relationships, was all because of their position in life and less because of what I brought to the table. For example, one woman I had a one night stand with did it with me not because I was a stud, but because she viewed sex as some fun and insignificant act. Bear in mind this is college. The only thing I did which differentiated me from other guys was that I was bold enough to ask them out. From then on, it felt that attraction towards me was out of my control and it was solely due to factors going on in the woman's own life. In fact, for women who felt the strongest attraction toward me, I could get away with being sloppy toward my presentation (I obviously do not recommend this). Originally, I thought her attraction level toward me was based on factors like my personality, what we did on the first date, my texting game, and other things in my control. But in my experience it is where she is in her life that makes the biggest difference with regard to whether she is attracted to you or not. You should be the best you can be for your own health, but bear in mind that in my experience, it is best to make yourself available to as many women as possible, and attraction will come from the women who are at a point in their lives to be attracted to you.