How to be 'calculated' whilst still having fun and being spontaneous?

TheLegendofMikeHawk · 2022-02-17T03:21:03+00:00

Understanding the game, being socially calibrated, knowing who to go all in with, and who to avoid. Play the numbers, venues with high ratios of female to male should all fit within "calculation". Being fun and spontaneous isn't always necessary, I like to play a more dangerous vibe. You should play the numbers, as well as having solid game.

Heavybench420 · 2022-02-17T07:08:16+00:00

What do u want to do? Ur the man.

Do u want to fuck this chick that day. Try to get her to the place u want to fuck at.

Do u just want to have fun? Then just have fun. (Remember that u might never see her again after)

Do u want to have fun first then try to fuck? Then do that.

At the end of the day it's all up to u. She's gonna go with it or she won't.

CarsonWentzisnotit · 2022-02-17T20:22:02+00:00

I think I k ow where you’re coming from and this is how I’ve been calibrating to it.

Having fun includes pulling in other people. When your out with friends you have to have fun with them first and then if someone is in your view you need to pull them in. Don’t interview them. If they are near by and a situation arises, include them. Carry a lighter even if you don’t smoke. You can find a way into a conversation with a girl you like with something like that.

You have to give her SOME but not too much room after this. Re-engage soon before some other tool talks to her.

You need to be flirty; like I said, no interviews. Whatever is said needs to be playful. For instance a common question is what’s your name. My nickname is an abreviation. They usually ask what that stands for. My go to is “it stands for incredibly handsome black man who is emotionally available and sexually gifted.” I can riff off of that for a solid 5 minutes before another question is even asked by either party. Most girls can’t riff but that’s ok, I am trying to make myself laugh. And you make her laugh by holding eye contact and a smirk when saying these stupid things

So this weekend I actually made some crazy progress because I’d been in a funk for the past 3 months. But I tried some things I never have before because I was just so calm and relaxed and had the mindset that it might not happen but I’m gonna throw the Hail Mary pass. Friday I’m at a club with a friend grinding up on this bigger but very pretty Arabic girl. At one point I look at her and say “I could just make out with your right now “ and then we did. The night goes on and I am not super into her but I am going against my nature and grabbing whatever to end this dry spell. We talk about leaving me her and her friends and some guys they are with. Long story short they all get into a car and I am not coming. Oh well.

I didn’t sulk. I was on my own now and could have went home but from the beginning of the night I had my eyes on a French blonde and we vibed just a little bit. So I go back in and dance by myself until I make it seem like a “oh hey I just bumped into you” situation. We start dancing and grinding and I am peppering her with all sorts of stuff to make her laugh here and there. Then I drop the line again. Make out with her. We continue dancing later on as the club is closing I am making out with her saying what are we going to do “I have some ideas” tell her we should go to a hotel and she says why not. And that’s how I spent the rest of the night. Beating her shit down

Shorter story but I’ll also put it here. Sunday night is the super bowl. I am at a party invited by a girl who I met on my first weekend in town (I’m traveling) we are having fun but I’m not trying to push it with her. We make out a bit and go out separate ways I get back to my hostel and hit the bar and there’s a girl there who I know from the road. She says she and her friends are going out. We go out, I flirt but give her space also while we are walking to the club. We are all having a good time. She and I are dancing a lot. I don’t make a real move all night just building up the sexual tension. But by the time we are ready to go I realize I need to either be in or be out. So I drop the like “what are you doing after this....I have a few ideas 😉) and we start making out. Get home, get to our floor and pull her in the bathroom. Bing bang boom

What happened in both situations is I focused on having a good time but also showing intent without bursting the bubble too early. I built up the tension and they both knew what I wanted from them without me saying it. And then I made it clear. And I also used direct as fuck lines to seal the deal. “What are you doing after, do you want to come home with me” that kind of shit when the tension is there works

Title	How to be 'calculated' whilst still having fun and being spontaneous?
Author	faithinstrangers92
Upvotes	2
Comments	3
Date	February 17, 2022 3:12 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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