New to this and to accepting the idea even. But, the more I read, the more I realize it isn't about being a fake ass douche, but bringing the best out in yourself.

I've always been an open, honest, mind on my sleeve kind of guy. But, especially after my last long term relationship, which I definitely have oneitus from but that's another thing, my worth to women confidence is at an all time low. I'm a decently attractive guy, can carry a conversation once it's going or somewhere I'm comfortable with, love to lift, have goals, etc... but my mind set after my last break up is poor. It was the first relationship I really put all of myself into and to fail at it has left me feeling like... well, an inept failure.

I know this is vague, but it's late and I'm not terribly comfortable posting this anyhow.