How to fix confidence?

srslywhythere · 2020-08-13T18:03:31+00:00

Hola.

Use the mantra "Fake it till you make it" it works like a fix quick solution for confidence.

Other than that, to get confident personality here are some tips that helped:

Don't waste your time - weird right? No. When you waste your time, you're implying to yourself that your time is worthless and whose time is worthless? A person who is worthless. So no time wasting. And basically no negative self talk.
Not caring about what other people think - so you're out in gathering and dropped something? No worries, pick it up and move on. Most people are gonna think and talk about it for few seconds or at best, minutes. Rest who dwell on it forever aren't worth being bothered about. (P.s. doesn't mean that you be an offensive prick)
Workout - trying to get in shape helps because you know you're working on your body, investing on yourself and well... Fewer people can kick your ass :p
Self talk - tell yourself something along the lines of "I am enough" in your mind and repeat it till you feel it.
When you wake up in the morning quickly get off your bed and don't just lay there or laze around. Start getting shit done.

Lemme know if ya need more.

srslywhythere · 2020-08-13T20:41:28+00:00

Your second bullet teapot joke was funny enough to negate your first bullet.

To rebuild your confidence “re-write” your list as positives instead of negatives (“I suck at...”).

Focus on what you’re good at while being open to improvements. It feels dumb and takes practice but you’ll literally become how you think. Same is true for exercise, it sucks at first but after a couple months steady you won’t be able to live without it.

Do both and you’ll have body+mind working together synergistically.

cottagecorehoe · 2020-08-13T16:51:29+00:00

Middle-aged jokes sound way up my alley and you "dress too nice"?! Are you kidding, I love when a guy actually puts effort in and your outfit sounds great! (I'm only a couple of years older than you).

Coming across as cocky could be a big deterrent. I can be extremely attracted to someone until the second they act as "holier-than-thou" or arrogant. It's good you're aware of this though which means you can work on maybe being more humble about your accomplishments, or taking the conversation topic off of yourself. You can be proud of and confident in what you've done, but it's a fine line between that and arrogance.

By suck at small talk, what exactly do you mean? I'm not sure what small talk would be other than how you talk to someone light heartedly and when you're getting to know them. Small talk does have a point -- you can't exactly have a big deep conversation two seconds into meeting someone; you have to ease into it. If you do really suck at it, my advice would be to ask the other person all the questions; people love talking about themselves anyways and it would take pressure off of you too if you don't feel like you're good at it.

srslywhythere · 2020-08-13T18:06:34+00:00

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Title	How to fix confidence?
Author	srslywhythere
Upvotes	2
Comments	16
Date	August 13, 2020 4:32 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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