How to go out alone?

Odd_Elegance · 2021-06-20T08:02:13+00:00

Truth is I’m responsible for what I think of you and you’re responsible for what you think of me.

If ur anxious around people it means ur trying to fit in. I know I used to be like this but u gotta find a way to be attractive to yourself like find something u’d be comfortable in.

I don’t think negatively of people I see prettiness in people regardless if they’re anxious or not.

ultimate_35 · 2021-06-20T08:13:04+00:00

I feel that the focus here is to talk with girls. So the thing is you need to improve your flirting skills and you gotta put your anxiety of rejection in a bucket.

See being social will help you when you have a lot of friends and you are getting together now and then for different events and parties. But if your main focus is to approach girls you need to learn that first.

The best suggestion? Just approach girls to see what happens. If you keep some expectations or set some goals then that is going to lower your confidence.

Rather than approaching a girl to get her out on date or to get her number, just approach her to see what happens. And keep doing that.

Just a normal conversation but you need to learn how to subtly flirt. That's important too. As girls seem not to understand the normal language. At least when you are making the connection with her.

After once you get off of your anxiety of approaching, you can set your foot in learning to be social.

BlueCollarSinner · 2021-06-20T09:41:41+00:00

To go out alone it's pretty easy, just do it. I was in your shoes, I didn't know how to go out solo and one day I just did it and it was pretty great. Just know somedays will be good and others will be a flop, like everything else you can't see the future.

When you go out solo make a plan and search for small cocktail bars, or socail clubs in your area and seek out less crowed places first to dip your toe in the water and get a feel for it. Just go in order a drink, usually you can strike up a convo with someone sitting at the bar or sometimes you get someone that sits next to you and can exchange a few words. Goal is to just to talking to random people, you don't have to go into deep talks at first.

As to start up convos you can say I'm new to the area can you give me some restaurants, hangout or clubs recommendations, etc. Get them talking about common knowledge, it's easier to keep the convo going like that. Use your surroundings as inspiration for your convos, say "have you ever tried this drink before?" or if yout at the store, "have you used this brand of soap before?"... Like you said it's not an overnight thing it takes time.

gato_praieiroSP · 2021-06-20T14:01:36+00:00

Dancing, learn Salsa, go to Salsa Clubs, BOOM. You are there to dance, you have a primary purpose, girls is secondary. So, no pressure and things flows natural.

Plus, is super ok go to dancing clubs alone, if you are a beginner and people ask you why you are there alone "I am here to practice", if you are advanced "Yeah, I am here to keep my skills top notch", people admire hard work, so, win-win

Title	How to go out alone?
Author	Filth-Montane
Upvotes	14
Comments	4
Date	June 20, 2021 4:43 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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