If you’re reading this then you obviously like the idea of having sex with 2 or more girls at the same time and I’m here to say that you can totally do it. As you can see from my interview with Harriet, the hot and successful woman who attends sex parties with her girlfriends, girls are just as up for this stuff as we are. It’s bs to say that they fantasise about kinky sex encounters any less than us (50 Shades of Grey wasn’t popular for nothing) but the thing is that they’re just not allowed to openly display their sexualities. Like I’ve said in previous posts, being labelled a slut is one of the worst things that can happen to a girl so they tend to go to great lengths to hide those sides of themselves from the world. This means that the odds of you meeting one who proposes a threesome to you or admits to either having had or actively wanting one unless you prod her to do so are virtually zero.

It also means that if you play into the social narrative of ‘promiscuous women are sluts and morally wrong’ when talking to girls you’ll just give them more reason to hide those sides of themselves from you.

Also; it’s unlikely that the girl you’re either talking to or sleeping with has come to terms with that dark, filthy and carnal side of her psyche. She’s most likely got thick cast-iron cords of shame and guilt wrapped tightly around its neck in a desperate attempt to choke the life out of it.

And it’s that shame and guilt in conjunction with your own unfair judgements that stops the two of you from exploring sex the way you both secretly crave. So why that in mind:

I’m now gonna explain how to make girls feel comfortable enough with you to have threesomes.

You ready?

Here come the pain.

Drop your bullshit, self-defeating and judgemental ideas about female sexuality

Guys expect a lot from girls and some of it’s pretty unfair to be honest. We chastise them for not being sexually attractive (hot) enough, but then attack them for doing the very thing that will come as a natural result of that attraction I.e. fucking people who were attracted enough to want to fuck them. We spend ages trying our hardest to get them into bed only to lose both interest in and respect for them if they agree too quickly. We do all that and more and then wonder why the fuck they play games with us and won’t ‘give us what we want’. It’s really fucking stupid if you ask me.

The fact is that if you want girls to consistently feel comfortable enough to do crazy shit like engage in threesomes with you then you’re going to have to get over some of your internal crap. You see the part of you that would feel insecure if your girlfriend said she’d had sex with more people than you and would call her a slut because as a result? Drop it.

You know the part of you that would feel weak and powerless if you knew her ex had a bigger dick than yours; and would be weird, angry, and then subtly punish because of it? Let it go.

You know the agony you’d feel if she told you the best sex she ever wasn’t with you? Put it to one side and kick it down a fucking hill.

None of that crap will help and all it’ll do is make you give off an energy that’ll communicate to her that you’re threatened by her sexuality and that she needs to hide it from you. Here’s something to remember.

Girls aren’t sweet, virginal little flowers, they’re adult human female mammals equipped all the rampant hormonal sexual urges that such a state naturally demands.

Establish yourself as a sexual being in her eyes

Have you ever known a guy who found out some crazy sexual secret from his girlfriend’s past and was shocked because she never did any of those things with him? Like she was a stripper who sucked off 2 black football players in a camper van while being rear ended by another years before they got together, but around him she has all the sexual appetite of a Disney princess? Well there’s a reason for that which is simply that women will fall into whatever frame you set for your relationship with them. Probably sounds weird, right? Well that’s because it really is weird but it’s still true. It basically goes like this:

When a girl meets a guy, she for the most part will sit back and allow him to dictate the terms of their relationship moving forward. Whether or not they have a sexual or platonic relationship is basically down to him and his actions.

And just so we’re clear; I’m not saying that whether or not they’re gonna have a romantic or sexual relationship is just the man’s decision because obviously the girl will have something to say about it. But; what I am saying is that women essentially react to the energy that guys give off and not the other way around.

If a man treats her like he wants to be a her stable and dependable boyfriend then she’ll usually either agree to that proposal or say no. She won’t usually say:

Hey I’m not really looking for a boyfriend right now but maybe you can be my fuck buddy.

And guess what? If she does accept his stable and dependable boyfriend proposal then she’ll fall into line with it 100%. This means treating him like her stable and dependable boyfriend in all areas and behaving like a stable and dependable girlfriend at all times. And that means not engaging with the depraved shit she got up to with the 2 German EDM DJs and Canadian rock star that time she was allowed backstage at Coachella.

But let’s say that a man positions himself as an asexual friend. If so then she probably won’t say:

‘Hey I’m pretty full for friends right now but I do have an opening in the boyfriend department that I think you might be interested in.’

Girls don’t interact with guys that way. Not for the most part. The way male to female sexual dynamics works is that the man proposes the terms of the relationship which the woman either accepts or rejects. Even situations where a guy’s been friend zoned have happened because that’s the energy he originally put out. He consistently put out a sexually unattractive but ultimately nice and friendly vibe until she basically decided:

I only like him as a friend.

But if he’d given off sexual energy then she most likely wouldn’t have friendzoned him. She might have turned him down, sure but it wouldn’t have been a friendzone, just ‘I’m not interested in you.’ and that’s not the same thing. A friendzone occurs when a girl sees you as being like her younger brother. Being turned down in the way I mentioned above happens when she sees and respects you as a man but thinks you’re just not her particular brand of vodka.

Anyway, what’s my point with all of this? My point is that you as the man set the tone for your relationship with a girl and it’s something you need to realise. What this means is that you have to quickly make sure she sees you in an unashamedly sexual light in order for her to think that you’re someone she should have threesomes with. She needs to see you as the kind of guy that this will happen with and not a boring but stable provider with whom they won’t.

Oh and one thing about girls that you should know is that once they’ve made an impression of you it’s very hard to get them to change it. If a girl’s decided that you’re her friend or stable but boring boyfriend then she’ll actively try to keep you in the same mental box and will resist your efforts to shine yourself in a new light. Now I’m not saying that she can’t ever change her opinion because she could but it’ll take some real hard work and graft on your part so make sure you lay the groundwork for your exploratory sexual relationship with all girls you’d want to have threesomes with from the absolute get go. And FYI, positioning yourself as a man she can have threesomes with doesn’t mean forgoing the possibility of a relationship, not at all. You can be a potential relationship partner and a sexually exciting man all at the same time.

Anyway, there’s lots of ways to cast yourself in a sexual light and I’ll write another blog about all of those tomorrow because it’s a huge topic that can easily fill its own mother fucking post. However; for the purposes of keeping things expedient; here’s some quick ways you can position yourself as a sexual being in her mind.

Don’t be afraid to touch her (holding hands, arm around shoulder etc)

Deliberately misconstrue things she says in a sexual light (example below)

HER: When guys approach me on the street I just beat them away.

YOU: Woah, you actually beat off guys who approach you in the street!? That’s crazy!

HER: (Laughing) No! No! I didn’t mean it like that!

Lead the interaction (Open doors, say where you’re going for dates, drive in a confident manner, steer the conversation with her and in groups etc).

Talk about the sort of girls you’re attracted to.

Openly discuss sex.

And more. Anyway, all of this brings me onto...

Let her know that you don’t judge her

So as I’ve said earlier, a girl needs to know that you don’t judge her black ass for being a sexual being and there’s a few ways that you can convey that. Below is a list of the sort of things I say in my conversations to show girls that I have zero judgement about their sexualities.

People should be free to live their own lives and not be bound by societal expectations.

Some of my female friends are strippers, and I’d do it if I was a woman..

My friend Jasmine is always having wild sexual adventures, she’s such a free spirit!

I’m attracted to women who live life on their own terms and aren’t afraid to go after what they want.

Normal girls who just do what they’re told are boring to me.

What’s the best sex you ever had?

What are your fantasies?

My fantasies are...

Have you ever been to a sex party?

Have you ever had a threesome?

Where’s the craziest place you’ve had sex?

What’s your favourite part of a man’s body?

I like to have threesomes.

Etc. Let girls know early on that you’re comfortable with female sexuality and have no judgement about it whatsoever. In fact, let them know that you celebrate it and want to see more of it in the world (which I do). Put the idea into their heads that you’re the kind of guy who’ll allow them to safely explore the depraved sexual dungeons of their psyches and watch as those seeds of thought take root in their minds and grow into strong trees of sexual curiosity that you can both taste the fruits of.

Also; you’re probably going to need to have these conversations over a period of time. This might not necessarily happen during a single chat depending on the girl in question. Some will need to talk more about it than others to get comfortable with the idea and some never will get comfortable with it for whatever reason, and that’s OK. It’s their decision.

Also; another thing you want to be aware of is that when you say to a girl ‘Hey have you ever been to a sex party or had a threesome?’ they’re more than likely gonna say ‘What?? No! Of course not!’ or something similar and they might insult you in some way afterwards. If and when that happens you have to let it roll off your back like water from a duck. You’re proposing something scary and potentially dangerous to her and that’s why she’s reacting the way she is. If your reaction to her reaction is to then get upset by said reaction, then not only are you going to lower her attraction for you but you’ll also put the nail in the coffin of any chance of you guys engaging in risqué sexual acts together.

If she freaks out or insults you then just smile kindly and leave her to it. Make sure she knows that this is just something that you do and if she’s not down with that then you’ve got two words for her (#suckit). Actually don’t tell her to suck it, but do smile and leave her to carry on as she is. Your life is your life and you’re not prepared to be defined by her expectations of you and who you should be. She’ll get the message and respect you for it one way or another.

And here’s the special thing about when you react like that. As I’ve said before, girls do fantasise about crazy shit (for example, rape fantasies are disturbingly common among women. Google it if you don’t believe me) that they can never really admit to. When you propose something like a threesome and they lash out only to have you smile and not let it bother you then their minds will start working.

Firstly, the fact that you’re so comfortable with this aspect of yourself will be very attractive and will make them wish they felt the same way about themselves.

Secondly, they’ll also start to wonder about what it would be like to do that stuff with you.

Thirdly, they’ll wonder how many girls you’ve had threesomes with.

Fourthly they’ll start to ask themselves if they’re being boring and frigid by saying no to something not only have other girls done with you but that they’ve also thought about doing in the past themselves.

And after that you’ll be surprised to see how many come back to you at some point in the future to either say that they’re up for it or want to talk about it more.

But anyway, once your girl in question is up for it, you then need to...

Find other girls to have sex with

The info below was written with the assumption that you want to find girls but if you want to have threesomes with other guys then more power to you. All the strategies I’ve listed below can apply to both sexes so use them however you want.

Anyway there’s a few ways you can go about finding sexual partners. Basically, when you’ve been communicating with girls in a sexually accepting manner for a while and have built up a network of female friends who you know are up for threesomes then you can basically just call one of them up and ask if they want to fuck you and your friend/girlfriend. They’ll probably want to see pics of her and to meet up for drinks or something first but that’s something you guys can arrange at your discretion. However; assuming you’re new to this and don’t have a network of friends to contact then you’ve got two options as I see it. Option number 1:

Start asking your friends

Obviously you’ll need to pick people who you know are open minded and won’t judge you even if they say no.

Signup to an app like Feeld

So there’s an app called Feeld which is basically like Tinder but specifically for people who want to fuck. If you and your girl create a joint profile there you’ll find people who want to have fun with you pretty quickly. I know there’s other similar apps out there too so do your research and go with what works for you if you don’t like Feeld.

Go out to clubs and find girls to take home

Now this isn’t going to be anywhere near as hard as you think and I’ll explain why. Women are on their guard when it comes to men they don’t know and they have loads of instinctive autopilot responses that we have to navigate around when dealing with them. As a guy, you can’t just go up to a girl and say ‘Hey, I’m looking for someone to have sex with tonight, are you interested?’ because if you do she’ll be disgusted and probably hit you.

BUT

She won’t react that way if another girl says it. She won’t react that way at all. The simple fact is that if you’re in a club with a pretty girl and you both approach a girl and say something like:

Hey, my friend Justine thinks you’re really hot and wants to kiss you.

That girl won’t be offended in the least and at worst will just blush with embarrassment. In any event, if you guys head out to a club with the expressed intention of taking a girl home then you just can’t fucking fail. You’d be surprised at how many girls secretly fantasises about fucking other girls, you really would; but you’ll find them if you go looking.

All you need to do is put them together and let them start touching, fondling, caressing and kissing each other. Then you slide into the action and then you take them both home when the time’s right. You won’t have to do much work at all.

Ciao for now, humans.

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