Humans have an uncanny inherent skill. That is reading reactions and emotions from people. A high percentage of this communication is non-verbal. We can tell when some one is surprised, excited, uncomfortable, ect.

Use this skill!

So here is how I go about it.

Step 1: Ask target something completely neutral such as...

  • Do you know if we had homework for this class
  • Is XYZ available to The point of this step is to just get some information out of the target that has nothing to do with her or you. You are simply using her as a way to get information. It's not "sparking a conversation" or "showing interest" you just want some information that she might have. If she wasn't the one near you, then you would have asked whoever else was available (guy, girl, mom, grandpa, whoever).

Now after you've posed the completely platonic question you need to read her reaction. Is she quick to reply? Is she enthusiastic? Does she seem nervous that you asked her? Or is she creeped out by it?

Read her reaction and adjust accordingly. If she seems uninterested and reluctant to provide you with an answer then end the conversation there. You successfully save face.

Now I would posit that > 90% of the time the target will be enthusiastic or nervous that you asked her. THIS IS A GOOD SIGN. If this happens go to step 2.

Step 2: Ask her an ambiguous question that could be interpreted in one of two ways. a.) I need more information for my own purposes and I'm using you to give me that information. b.) I am interested in you and want to know more about you.

The brilliance of this is the target will always err on the side of caution and assume that you are not interested in her and simply want more information from her.

If she gives you an enthusiastic or nervous response that you can tell she really tried on - then you've got yourself an interested girl.

If it's short ect. Then she is not interested and you act on the idea that you only wanted more info for your own needs and bolt.

This method has worked wonders for me. You just pose the question and read the reaction and react accordingly.

PS: when you do this girls astonishingly seem almost always show interest, because this ambiguous non-upfront interest is what attracts most women. They don't want a man who is completely forward and gives up his intentions in the first sentence.

There you have it. How to never get rejected. Never put the ball in her court. This method allows you to always keep the ball in your court - you can either score or walk away perfectly while saving face.

This methodology was derived from seeing many of my friends hit on girls long after the girl had expressed a non interest. These situations make me cringe. It's awkward for both parties. Sure you should approach girls but if it's clearly failing you need to cut your losses because it will not go anywhere.