Today at the spur of the moment, I decided to get my gun safety certificate, and posted this in Snapchat.

A girl who I'm pretty close with immediately invests in communicating with me by asking questions, and telling me she really wants to go to a shooting range. She has a boyfriend...

I could indeed take her shooting, and two outcomes are possible: leave as friends, or leave as lovers.

If I take her just for the sake of taking her shooting, she'll no doubt be grateful and I will continue to be her friend.

However if I take her shooting to satisfy her desire to go shooting, she will believe we are meant to be, because I fulfilled her fantasy. She already has an idea of what going shooting with me will be like, all I have to do is deliver.

I mean, she could've saw my snap and told her boyfriend to take her shooting! Her intent is to experience that with me!

So here's how I envision her idea of the perfect date, where I'll be everything she wants: I be super friendly yet sexually provocative, use all reasons and options to touch and be close to her, and have an engaging time shooting.

(The thing is, I can only guess at her vision of the perfect date, and no doubt I will be wrong. When I'm wrong she will tell me verbally or nonverbally, and I make the adjustment. This is where calibration comes into play)

So when you want to plan a perfect date, find the void she wants to be filled, and fill out how you think is best, adapting to the situation as need be.