How to stop cringing when visualisating

2021-12-04T01:12:11+00:00

Read 'the subtle art of not giving a fuck' it has some good advice on this.

It pretty much says you cringe at that stuff because you define yourself too esoterically, you think that because it's your life you shouldn't have any cringe memories, so the fact that you do says something inherently bad about you. If you define yourself more mundanely , you'll be happier as you're viewing your mistakes through that context

Glasseswearerr · 2021-12-04T00:15:11+00:00

Me also man

ChutiyaChutney420 · 2021-12-04T06:29:20+00:00

I simply just count to three and do what I was intending to do. This has always helped me as it's like a challenge to yourself and you gradually keep improving with each one you do. For ex I make myself converse with people wherever I go, it has helped me with my social skills, all I do is count to three and do it regardless of how the outcome would be.

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-12-04T09:32:53+00:00

If I were you, I'd do this. You have to put to rest all your mistakes and fuck ups that you feel bad about. Stuff you did years ago that you still carry with you. Shame over how you treated others or how you let others treat you, etc. Take full responsibility for these mistakes and resolve to never make them again. Building self respect is as easy as not doing things that you wouldn't respect in other people.

As you process your mistakes and own them and therefore become at peace with them, they will bother you less and less. As you stop making the same old mistakes over and over, your self respect will grow and as a result you will start liking yourself more. At one point you have to decide that you are enough as you are. A lot of folks try to visualize themselves as rock starts or super popular and cool, but that's so far out of their realm of what's possible that it gets rejected by the mind. Instead keep saying to yourself "I am sociable enough, I am likable enough, I am popular enough, I am enough".

This will grow your self esteem and confidence and you will no longer have anything you need to prove to others.

MetaphysicPhilosophy · 2021-12-04T03:33:12+00:00

Start saying a mantra “I am a fucking God”. Also start proving that you can leave your comfort zone through small things. Even as simple as asking a girl what time it is. You can eventually start a conversation from that.

I do visualization in combination with meditation. It helps if you clear your mind first. Also instead of thinking whether the visual is you or not, ponder on where it arises from because where the desire and visual arises from is your higher self. Through actively connecting to and realizing who your higher self is, you will see things in your life slowly change.

Taylankab · 2021-12-04T05:14:08+00:00

"We don't think ourselves into new ways of living, we live ourselves into new ways of thinking" You can't just appear confident my thinking about it, you need to put some act to gain this confidence. They say the best way to be confident is to be your self but what if you loath and criticise your self most of the time. The solution is to work everyday towards changing your behaviour not by trying to shift your thinking and visualisation. So if you want to be confident with women you have to approach them more often keeping in mind that this is a training and it's okay and natural to embarrasse yourself and fail in the beginning but with time you will gain experience.

According-Mobile-993 · 2021-12-05T17:25:57+00:00

Tbh the reason you feel that is because it’s against who you are. You have to kill who you are now to become who you are meant to be. I can’t become a entrepreneur if I’m still investing all my effort in my current 9-5 right? What’s lame about wanting better for yourself? Remember a bully does the same thing? Haha guys look at this nerd who’s trying. That’s your inner voice deterring you from making that change.

Not trying to be mean but let’s gain a bit of perspective. Can you visualize yourself being a professional running back running a 4 flat in the 40? That’s a massive between simply becoming comfortable in your skin to talk to women or having a better amount of self presence in a room don’t ya think? Gain some self perspective and you’ll gain clarity on what needs to be done.

Title	How to stop cringing when visualisating
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Date	December 3, 2021 10:47 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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