Do you find yourself researching tons of seduction theory either in places like this sub or various YouTube channels but find that for some reason you can’t actually pull the trigger and go out and meet girls? You do all this research but when push comes to shove can’t seem to get yourself to follow through on everything you’re learning, even if there’s always really good excuses for it too, like:

She’s in the phone, I can’t approach when she’s on the phone.

I’m hungry and not in a great mood so if I approach now it won’t go well.

She doesn’t really look that hot, I’ll wait for someone hotter and then approach them instead.

Or maybe you’re just paralysed with fear when the moment comes to approach, kiss, touch or move forward with any girl and you find yourself thinking:

I think she wants me to ask her out but I can’t do that. What if I got it wrong and she’s just being friendly?

I know the women like a strong man who leads, but I don’t want to risk looking creepy and offending her so I won’t kiss her now. I’ll hang back until she says what she wants to do.

Either way you’re stuck, have a massive block that you don’t know what to do about, and it pisses you off, right? Makes you feel small? Because no matter how hard you want to be able to connect with girls you just can’t and you don’t know why. You never seem to get to where you want to be.

Well I’m here to say that you’re not inadequate, you’re not doomed to misery and you’re not cursed either. There isn’t a Scarlet Witch style hex hanging over your head preventing you from being able to relate to girls the way you want. But; there is an internal hex coming from your own subconscious mind and that’s what’s stopping you from living the life you dream about. If you’d like to know more about how to remove that hex then you’re in luck because I’m about to go into it right now.

You ready?

Here come the pain!

You’ve got negative beliefs programmed into your subconscious mind which are stopping you from connecting with girls

Human beings (aka you and me) have two minds, the conscious and subconscious. The conscious mind is the creative type that’s aware of the present and future and makes plans based on how it imagines they could pan out. This is the mind that will see video footage of someone picking up hot girls on YouTube, imagine itself having that ability, and think ‘Wow, that looks awesome, I think I’ll learn to be like him!’

The subconscious mind, however; is firmly rooted in the past and has no creativity whatsoever. It’s literally a computer that spits out unbreakable commands based on programming it received when you were a kid. This is the mind that has you feel that huge crippling burst of anxiety when the time comes to put those seduction principles into practice.

You see, as children grow up they’re soaking up information about both the world and themselves like sponges because their subconscious minds are actively installing mental operating systems to guide them through life. While you as an adult might have the common sense to realise that when Daddy snapped and said ‘You don’t deserve that toy!’ he didn’t really mean it, the childhood version of you took that statement as gospel. They thought:

Daddy’s saying I’m not good enough to have the things I want. I’m obviously just not a good person at all.

And that belief embedded itself deep into your subconscious to make sure you spent the rest of your life believing you weren’t a good person who was worthy of the things they wanted.

It’s the subconscious mind that sits back and lets you learn something like speed skating for a week or two before giving you 65 billion excuses to quit and sending you right back to the status quo. The subconscious knows you’re a fat and uncoordinated loser who doesn’t deserve to be graceful and lithe like a speed skater and will never let that happen as a result.

And where women and dating are concerned, it’s the subconscious mind that sends shockwaves of fear through your body to stop you from approaching them, makes sure you’re completely tongue tied in conversations, prevents you from doing things that a cool guy would do, and makes girls less interested in you as a result.

Basically it’s like like this; the subconscious mind doesn’t like to be wrong, no matter how negative its beliefs might be. Once it has a belief installed it does everything in its power to ensure that your outer reality synchs up with it. Also; only 5% of the decisions you make come from your conscious brain, aka the you that you think of as you when you imagine yourself being, thinking, talking to other people and basically living your life. This means that 95% of your decisions and actions come directly from the subconscious.

It’s the subconscious that keeps you walking while you’re consciously talking to your friend on the phone or driving a car when you’re consciously listening to music. It’s also the subconscious mind that makes you get happy when someone compliments you or upset when they insult you. Sure, you’ll have reasons for why you feel flattered or offended but these reasons are just conscious justifications for subconscious reflexes and nothing more. We as people think we’re the ones running the show, we think that we’re completely in control of our actions but we’re really not. We’re controlled by automated super computers we don’t even know about but run our lives 24-7 like Kim Jong Un runs North Korea.

In any event, the key to getting the things you want lies in reprogramming the subconscious and here’s one way you can do it.

You can reprogram your subconscious mind through repeated mental commands stated with emotional intensity and repeated visualisation

The subconscious mind responds to repetition, visualisation and emotion. Any command that you give it consistently and with real emotion over an EXTENDED period of time will eventually take root and cause it to reprogram itself. But you have to be relentless, you can’t half ass it or give up after a week. Your black ass needs to keep inputting this new command diligently until the supercomputer in your brain admits defeat and accepts the new statement as part of its internal programming. And just so we’re clear, you’re gonna be doing this for at LEAST 30 minutes per day until that happens.

How you can spot your negative subconscious beliefs

You can find your subconscious beliefs by looking at your outer life experience and noticing the sorts of things that constantly happen to you. Are you always broke? Well dressed? Ignored by other people? Looked up to and respected? In shape or out of shape? Whatever it is that’s always showing up in your life is down to either a positive or negative subconscious belief and it’s really that simple. Using women and dating as an example, if you find it impossible to talk to hot girls then you probably believe that they’re better than you and wouldn’t want to know you if they had the chance. In that case just install a polar opposite belief like:

I’m an amazing guy who any girl would want to be around.

And keep saying it with energy and passion while visualising yourself having great interactions with lots of different girls until the new belief takes root. Also; just know that if you’re saying something to yourself that you consciously know to be false, you’ll get an uncomfortable feeling that’ll make you want to stop, but you have to ignore it and keep going. Remember that we’re not talking to the conscious mind that gives a damn about logic. We’re communicating with the subconscious part of you that doesn’t give an apcray about illysay things like actsfay and is only concerned with what it’s been programmed to elievebay.

The positive beliefs you’re going to install into your mind aren’t any more false than the negative ones you picked up as a kid so get to work and forget about how accurate they are. They might not be true now, but they will be so fuck it.

When Conor McGregor was jobless in Dublin 6 years ago he walked the streets visualising himself as a multi millionaire UFC champion and look where he is today. He literally credits this work as being key and integral to him achieving the lifestyle he currently has. But it’s not just him though; Usain Bolt visualised himself winning the Olympics and Christiano Ronaldo visualised himself being the world’s greatest footballer. Anyone you respect who’s every achieved anything impressive first believed it was going to happen and regularly visualised themselves doing it.

So when you feel doubt start to creep into your mind keep going and realise that you’re in damn good company. Other people have been through and done exactly what you’re about to go through and do. Say your new belief to yourself all the mother freaking time, especially while looking in the mirror if you can and you’ll eventually reach the Promised Land. This can’t fail. It isn’t some weird and esoteric brain hack, it’s a straightforward principle you’ve already used to create the mental programming you have today. We’re just taking control over it to give us the lives that we want instead of the ones that were shoved in our faces by circumstance.

How long it’ll take to reprogram yourself

It’s going to be a lot of work, believe me and it will take a while for you to see results. But as for exactly how long, well how long is a piece of string? It all depends on you to be honest; how often you repeat the new belief and with what level of intensity and how firmly embedded the previous belief was before you started. But if you really need me to give you some sort of timeframe then I’d be flabbergasted if you noticed no difference in your life after a solid month of CONSTANT reprogramming.

Oh and by the way, let me make something clear before I go. I’m not saying that reprogramming your mind on its own will give you the experiences with women that you want. You’ll still have to learn about women and you’ll still need to actually go out and meet girls. But; by getting your mind to work for you rather than against you you’ll free yourself to fully dive into everything you’re learning and progress with women rather than take constantly 2 steps forward, 2 back, and always be in the same spot.

Ciao for now, humans.

Excelsior!

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