Hey Seddit,

Sorry for the long post, but I have a huge problem with flaking, which has never happened to me before. Every single girl I make plans with ends up cancelling, even ones I’m not interested in romantically. Here’s a few examples from March

  1. I met a girl in a neighboring city, we hit it off and hooked up. We ended up texting a lot, which would often be flirty and sexual. She would also always ask me to come visit her again. Two weeks later, she was coming to my city to see family, and said she was so excited to see me. When she arrived, I texted her and asked how her family was. She didn’t reply until the end of the weekend, and just said I’m heading back home, so sad I didn’t get to see you. We continued texting/flirting/sexual talk for another week, and she said she was coming back to my city for a concert. I was going to be out downtown anyways, so I told her we can meet up after the concert. I texted her an hour after the concert ended and she didn’t reply. The next afternoon she said she’s heading home and just saw my text. Now she’s asking me to come visit her in her city again. Every night she complains she’s cold and asks me to warm her up (cue sexual talk again).

  2. I went for drinks with a close friend, and her friend there seemed really into me, we flirted and touched a lot. We texted for a few days, with her replying very quickly. We made plans to go for drinks and she exclaimed she was “sooo excited to have ‘xxx drink’ again!” On the day, she asked to reschedule for next week without a reason

  3. A girl on tinder I talked to and transitioned to texting and phone calls. We made plans to meet up a few days later, and on the day she said she had to re-sign her lease, apologized, asked to reschedule to another day and time. I agreed, and on that new set day, she asked if we can delay it a few hours. I asked what happened, and she didn’t reply until today, saying sorry for not replying (I haven’t messaged back)

  4. Ran into an ex-FWB a few months ago. Hung out a few times in January/February and slept together again. All of March, she has a different excuse for not hanging out (usually make plans to go for drinks). Excuses included “I forgot we had plans” and “I didn’t think you were actually serious when you made these plans” and “I friend came to see me from another city by surprise”

  5. I ran into a friend downtown who I haven’t seen in years. We used to hang out all the time, and she recently broke up with her boyfriend. We texted for the next few days and I asked her to hang out as friends, I set a time and a place, and she said she loved that restaurant and was so excited. She cancelled on the day due to family issues. When I tried to set a new day she kept coming up with different excuses (family, exams, etc). We have never had any romantic interest in each other but it seems quite odd.

All of this happened in the past couple weeks, and I am getting really frustrated. What do I do? I feel cursed