I hate myself

Woujo · 2017-05-20T15:50:38+00:00

I ve watched hundreds of videos, read all possible articles about pickup and the effect is zero.

This is your problem.

First, that shit is mostly a scam. Approaching random women is very hard, which is why most guys can't do it. Those assholes that make that stuff rely on the scam that approaching will be "easy" if you do their "one little trick." No. It's hard. And you need to appreciate that it's hard. You can never become good at anything if you don't appreciate how hard it is.

Second, reading/watching is worthless without doing. In fact, it makes it worse because it makes you feel like you are an idiot for not being better at it.

Stop reading PUA materials. Take a break from PUA. Clear your mind of this nonsense. Stop hating yourself.

AnnikaQuinn · 2017-05-20T18:03:46+00:00

"I hate myself"

Well, you know what needs improvement

MisterBurgerFace · 2017-05-20T18:45:21+00:00

Just the fact that you are saying you hate yourself, calling yourself a coward and giving us this depressed, bleak attitude explains EVERYTHING.

How do you expect to get anywhere if you are labeling yourself like this?

You need some serious therapy before you get started on PUA, buddy.

Iamflirtingwithyou · 2017-05-20T17:54:36+00:00

There will always be obstacles in the way of your goals. Feel the fear and do it anyway. When I first started going to the gym and I couldn't find a parking space, I thought damn I really want to leave. I let myself think it and feel it and say it. But I stuck around until I found a parking spot. I kept going to the gym even when I hated it. Pretty soon I got used to going to the gym. In fact it got to the point I fucking loved going to the gym.

When you're afraid of approaching a girl, feel it, think it, say it, but do it anyway. Hell. I recommend going up to women and being completely honest. The first goal is just to approach. The second goal is to just have something to say. The third goal is to get to know the person you're talking to. Etc. So imagine the following scenario, you walk up to a pretty girl immediately after you see her. You say exactly what you're thinking or feeling. You might say something along the lines of "hey I am super shy but I really wanted to talk to you. Wow I'm so scared right now I don't normally do this. In fact I'm trying to work on overcoming my shyness." If you can do that, you've just completed goal number one and goal number 2.

A big mistake guys make is assuming they know what the other person is thinking. You may ask questions but don't assume you know their inner thoughts and feelings. Never say the following for example. "Oh my god you probably think I'm a coward. You probably hate me." Etc. There is no way you can ever read someone's mind so don't do that. Instead focus on what you're feeling and focus on what you want to know about the other person. For example. "Hey I see you reading a book I really like, what did you think of it?" "Hi I love your shirt! I'm a fan too." And conversely. "How can you be a fan of that team? Just kidding! What's your name?"

Just remember a simple truth. We can't make other people like us. They either like you or they don't. She's either going to want to talk to you or she's not. She's either going to be attracted to you or she's not. She's either single or she's not. Even if she wants to bang you, she might be married. Even if she wants to bang you, she might only be in town for a day. In other words, there are many factors outside your control. Out of 10 women you approach, maybe half aren't attracted to you. Some are attracted to you but in a relationship. Some don't want a relationship. Some don't want to have sex.

So when I approach a woman I have zero fear of rejection. Why? Because I know for a fact I will get rejected. I know for a fact that it will happen a lot. I know for a fact I will get rejected by at least half the women I approach. When I get rejected, I don't take it personally because it's really not. I simply smile and walk away. I move on to the next person.

Examples of rejection: 1. You walk up and they ignore you. (The reason doesn't matter, just move on and walk away. It's still a success because you had the guts to approach.) 2. You introduce yourself and they refuse to shake your hand. (Kino escalation is important. If they don't shake you're hand, you can't escalate to hugs, kisses, and other physical acts) 3. She's seems to like you but she's not single. 4. She seems friendly but she's too busy to spend time with you (If she doesn't want to hang out, or she doesn't like texting you, move on to someone else.)

Don't waste time on someone who seems interested but is always flaking on meeting you. Some people have a 3 strikes rule. I have zero tolerance for flakes. If a woman cancels plans she's just not into you. I had a woman I met on tinder get into a car accident before our first date. She still met up with me that night.

I had a tinder match text me and send me pictures every day. We would even talk on the phone some days. She canceled every plan we ever made. Most frustrating thing ever. 10/10 waste of time. I was disappoint.

2017-05-20T23:47:26+00:00

Don't try to pick up every girl you meet, just try to talk to them. Make a comment to a cashier, if she looks like Ariel Winter, say so. Don't make it some pickup line, just talk. Don't pressure yourself to pickup, you're just communicating, its what humans do and like. Don't feel the need to talk to 10 women a day. The real purpose of talking is to get into a relaxed mode so you can say things to strangers without it being weird.

TatoJonez · 2017-05-21T06:45:59+00:00

Work on improving yourself bro. If its broke, fix it. Lift weights, buy better clothes, work on improving yourself in all aspects. Women love a man who is a forward thinker, a man who stays busy, a man with a mission. Upgrade your $, education, body, mind & spirit. You need to boost your confidence.

KingOfJura · 2017-05-23T03:27:15+00:00

Just hate yourself enough for not doing it and youll do it.

Title	I hate myself
Author	birdface7
Upvotes	6
Comments	17
Date	May 20, 2017 1:57 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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