I need a second opinion

Siroucity · 2015-09-28T18:07:42+00:00

Don't try dinner, maybe that's too forward, ask her if she'd be down to get a coffee or tea and just have an intellectual conversation. From what you said, I can see her still being interested in you but just scared for whatever reason. Be friendly and straight forward, see how that goes.

CrushHazard · 2015-09-28T18:51:51+00:00

The truth is that you don't know what is going on in her life. There may be a boyfriend or an ex in the picture, hell, maybe she's been getting raped or stalked or something like that. You are just a stranger, so why should she trust you?

Tell her something like, "I get it. Don't worry about it, but hey, I think you're an awesome girl. It's too bad that you have some fucked up shit going on. If you need someone to talk to, let me know. Take care."

Then you ignore until she re-initiates.

Like I've said before, this is not an invitation to be her bestie. It's just a way to show that you aren't going to get all butthurt just because one woman doesn't want to go out with you. She isn't going to have an epiphany and all of a sudden be attracted to you, but it will put you in the "maybe" pile. When she's ready, she just might get in contact with you. I've had girls re-initiate with me anywhere from a few weeks to a year later with great results.

Eliminate the ego. Don't blow out, and don't burn bridges. You will get more and better sex that way.

permashred · 2015-09-28T17:10:36+00:00

Tell her to make up her mind and either go out with you or get out of your life. In softer terms of course.

puaCurveBall · 2015-09-28T18:45:57+00:00

This belongs in /r/askseddit as it is asking advice for a specific situation / girl

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Also, don't worry about it! You didn't do anything wrong since you didn't know

Gregger90 · 2015-09-28T17:54:32+00:00

"Do as you like, I'm going out to dinner anyways! Have a good one"

Title	I need a second opinion
Author	lfgrichard
Upvotes	0
Comments	11
Date	September 28, 2015 4:48 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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