Gentlemen, I need help. A couple of years ago I was pretty active in this community and was pretty good with seduction but I completely lost it. I decided to get back with my ex during the peak of my seduction days due to an overall feeling of loneliness and it was a terrible mistake. We broke up for good 8 months ago and I haven't been the same since.

Right after we broke up I was fine and even got laid a couple of times but since September I have been stagnant. I have been trying to work on myself, I've been working out a lot more and eating healthier. I've been trying to gain my confidence back but I feel like a broken man. I have no confidence in myself, I seem to lack the drive that I used to have to speak with other girls and can barely convince myself to do it when I'm sober. I try to drink to loosen myself up but I can't control my drinking enough to stay sober enough to be effective when talking to girls. I find myself just getting depressed and drinking to excess until I take myself home in a cab and go to bed, completely unsuccessful.

I know the answers are obvious. "Focus on yourself, talk to girls, don't drink so much" but I can't seem to pull myself out of this rut.

I deleted Tinder and Bumble a few months ago because I never had any success on them so I'm literally just NOT MEETING any girls. I'm a good looking guy and I have a lot of charm - I hear it on a daily basis but I can't seem to put these things to work for me the way I used to be able to.

Somebody please help. I just need some advice on where to start or what to do. I can't stop thinking about my ex and her new boyfriend and it is tearing me apart. I want to go out and hit on girls and go on dates but I just don't have the energy, drive, or confidence that I used to have.

Where do I go from here? What is the first step I should take and what do I do from there to get my confidence and game back to stop feeling so lonely?