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I'm about to quit.

[deleted] · 2013-04-03T02:58:05+00:00

EDIT: I guess asking for honest advice makes me a "fucking asshole". Thanks for the hospitality,...

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April 3, 2013

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Title	I'm about to quit.
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	0
Comments	10
Date	April 3, 2013 2:58 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1bka9r/im_about_to_quit/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/im-about-to-quit.1350004 https://theredarchive.com/post/1350004

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[–][deleted] 13 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

[–]theoctopuss -1 points0 points1 point 13 years ago* (6 children) | Copy Link

[–]Brannus 3 points4 points5 points 13 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

Just because you do everything "right" still doesn't mean the girl has to be attracted to you or needs to be attract to you.

It gets old when you only bang 1 out of 5 girls you meet in 6 months.

Right there, you're being very outcome dependent (and trust me... I know how frustrating trying NOT to be can be). Again, just because you do this (dressing nice, not being too needy, etc.), doesn't mean you have any more right to be with said woman than the next guy.

I'm of the opinion, depending on the context, that if you are not getting the results that you want, then you need to rethink how you are gaming (not blaming women as a whole). It comes down to re-calibrating and rethinking your game. You're not getting the women you want, then you are not attracting (or building rapport with) them enough for them to sleep with you (seeing as that seems to be your main goal).

[–]theoctopuss -1 points0 points1 point 13 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

This is why I'm about to quit. I can get with girls and most guys would consider them hot, its just the girls I actually want always turn me down like I'm am ugly freak or something.

Please, please don't take me the wrong way. I'm somewhat agreeable and non-confrontational. I'm intelligent and can talk technically about any subject. I'm not trying to brag, but after conversing for a few minutes I feel like the smartest person in the room a lot. I always put myself at the same level when starting off and then go from there.

I used to think I was ugly and wish I looked different, but I still would get girlfriends (junior high I had like 5 girlfriends, and no it doesn't boost my ego). I got laid by my 6th or 7th girlfriend and then have been with 3 girlfriends since, 5 hook ups. It took many years of girls calling me hot, cute, and even perfect one time. I never ever once thought myself to be hot and didn't really even think I was somewhat good looking until recently.

One girl said I come off like those guys off the hills: chiseled face, blue eyes, good hair, tall, fit. Then I talk to them and apparently as soon as I open my mouth they lose that image? A lot of hot girls have straight up said I'm cute, kinda randomly, while a bunch of others are around and I eventually got with them sexually. Some have said I come off like I should be a doctor or a lawyer. I'm pretty well endowed. I catch girls looking at me in public quite a bit.

Trust me, even after hearing all of this stuff from girls and even some guys, I'm not super arrogant. I just think that if 20 girls who dont know eachother think that way, why do I get turned down so much?

[–]Brannus 1 point2 points3 points 13 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

So it has nothing to do with your looks. Great, we have that acknowledged and can put it on the "Don't need to work on this" list. Now you need to ask yourself what it could possibly be. You need to sit down and critically, and thoughtfully examine your game.

Clearly you are doing something wrong, at least so far as you see it. For example: Is it the way you are approaching them? Is it the vibe you give off? These questions, and more, you will need to ask yourself. And answer for yourself.

You seem to be focused on how your looks should be carrying you along into the pants of every girl that has the pleasure of laying eyes on you (my opinion on what you have posted so far). You are only focused on about... 1/7th (if that much) of what seduction is about.

In addition, I feel as though you have a perfectionistic mind set. You have to get every girl you come across. Guess what... sometimes you just will NOT get every girl. You should be fine with this and... move on to the next one.

If you don't wish to put the time and effort into this, then by all means, quit. It's your life. It's your choice. You are the one that will need to gauge where you want to take it from here.

[–]theoctopuss -1 points0 points1 point 13 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]Brannus 1 point2 points3 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I've given my opinion/advice on the matter. You're asking for other people, who were never there for any of these situations, to give their opinions and advice on how to make you better. That is like asking a doctor for advice on how to treat a patient without any knowledge of what is wrong with the patient or even been in the same room as them. It's just not going to happen.

With that being said, a little bit of tough love.

I don't think I'm hot personally, that's just what I've been told by quite a few different people from all walks of life.

Again... great... mark that off your list of things to worry about and put down "I need to feel as though I am desirable".

as soon as I put in even a little bit of effort, they go cold Turkey on me

Ask yourself if that is really the case or something you do WHEN you decide to put forth the effort.

Cute girls do like me and actively try to hook up with me, but that's when they come on to me.

And the problem being? As I said above, you seem to have this mind set "Oh look I'm getting X number of girls because they are coming after me. However, I want these X number of girl who I want. But I'm not getting the girls the girl I want."

To say it again... use some of your intelligence to examine what seems to be holding you back from getting these girls. My opinion, you either need to get use to the fact that you will not get all the girls you want or you need to go back examine your game (for the Nth time). Probably even both won't be a bad way of going about it.

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[–]theoctopuss1 point 13 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link