Sometimes when I go out and end up getting rejected, i'll be told that my mistake was to show my hand. Maybe I opened directly and told her I thought she was cute. Maybe I didn't state it, but my eye contact made it clear that I found her attractive.

I assumed that these were things that I was supposed to be doing, but i'm just confused now, the more I read!

One of the main rules is apparently to ‘assume attraction’ – so we physically escalate early on in the interaction for example. But this is also a blatant display of intent which is possibly a rule break based on some of the literature I've read (That one must not show intent until she does, basically - and even then, keep her guessing)

Then the other side of the coin, I was listening to a PUA the other day (can’t actually recall his name) but I think he was Australian or British, and he spoke about how much better at getting laid guys were when he lived in Brazil and Italy vs how lame most guys are in the UK/US/AU etc. He said the main problem was that the Brit/US guys hid their intent. Then he said something like ”Here’s the main thing that is gonna get you guys laid more. The main rule of game; SHE NEEDS TO KNOW THAT YOU WANNA FUCK!!”

Made me think, and I started thinking ”what the hell do people advise hiding intent for?''

Then you could argue that the idea is that, yes, you must make your intent crystal clear, but only after she has passed compliance tests, has shown you attraction, and you have qualified her (basically mystery method??)

And then there are other people who don’t wait for any of that. They go in, tell her she’s cute, make her laugh, get physical , and pull her.

At times I wonder if there really are no rules. We just think there are, and we attribute certain success to these rules, when really the girl was simply into you, based on….whatever. Your looks? The way you smell/dressed/whatever

I'm just a bit confused about how much and 'how' and when I should 'show intent'

If I had to describe what I currently do, I either open direct (so it's out there straight away) or I open indirect (although try to make it somewhat clear through things like eye contact etc), then slowly try to escalate (and usually get rejected, lol)