I'm lost

IWriteForGroupies · 2017-01-03T22:45:25+00:00

I would normally tell people to walk down the road of seduction because it can help them develop as a person. I will not tell you this.

got rejected, became really depressed and ended slashing myself real bad...

If you cannot handle rejection, seduction is not for you. I believe you need to work on yourself and be happy with you.

Now I`ve become very insecure and afraid to "approach" strangers of the opposite sex

People preach approaching in this sub. You have to approach. Getting over approach anxiety is possible. It takes some work and it can mess with your mentality.

Cried real hard when I got home..

Again, seduction is a journey. You will hurt some days and other days you will not.

Any tips ?

I believe you need to work on being happy yourself. I can't tell you how to do this. Only you can figure this out. Relationships are complicated and if you truly want to get into one, you need to do it for the right reason. Good luck.

Igmu · 2017-01-03T21:15:28+00:00

He's not lost. He's,

...

Normal.

jsbach123 · 2017-01-04T03:48:56+00:00

Everybody will get hurt in this dating game...that's the risk you have to take if you want to achieve anything in life.

That being said, if you've slashed yourself and cried, maybe you're not yet ready to approach someone (let alone date someone). It's time to improve yourself and get your self-esteem up first.

MajestyFlakoJodie · 2017-01-03T23:55:59+00:00

You should value yourself more, I would recommend you Models by Mark Manson,No more Mr.Nice Guy (it's not about being a bad guy).When you add value and appreciate what you are there is not such thing as a rejection, your "gifts" should be appreciated.Be confident.From a guy rejected more than 20 times I would say that how you evolve make you a remarkable person.Think what you can improve and there are a lot of girls that reject guys for many reasons no just by looks.It's how you react to it.Please read Models by Mark Manson it offers you perspective and value.Cheers!

1z1z2x2x3c3c4v4v · 2017-01-04T19:00:33+00:00

You need to work on you first.

See a therapist first, slashing yourself has deep rooted issues, I know, I cut my self a few times in college.

Second, work on your approach. You "fell in love" in your head even before you asked the girl out. You need to just learn to approach people, all people.

Then you work on approaching average girls

Then the ones you find attractive.

Title	I'm lost
Author	TheGuy12243
Upvotes	2
Comments	5
Date	January 3, 2017 9:13 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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