Hi Seddit. I wanted to share some useful techniques on inner game. Many of them I learned dealing with my own anxiety, some I learned through counseling.

The first one is on dealing with conflicted beliefs.

Can you think of situations such as:

A friend whom you hate his or her guts. Inserting your individuality with your family. Openly expressing your sexuality. Trying to sleep with more women.

Inside of us, we have a mold that define what a friend is, how a parent should behave, when and where to express sexuality, and how many women we should sleep with.

When we are exposed to new ideas, these old beliefs are challenged. When our hold two conflicting ideals, beliefs or values we create mental stress, tension discomfort. This is called Cognitive Dissonance.

Cognitive Dissonance sounds like:

Name is my friend, but I hate his guts I love my family, but I want to have my own views as well I know society frowns upon this but I want to openly express my sexuality I want to be a gentlemen, I want to find the perfect one but I want to sleep with a lot of girls.

The simple technique here is to change that But to an And. It’s a simple acceptance of having both beliefs co-exist within. You can love your friend and hate him at the same time, you can find the perfect one and sleep with many girls.

Hope this helps. More to come