attractive men, why can't you get laid (or settle down, get a family, etc). I love that question. It's not asked enough, or answered deeply enough. For me nothing ever is. For me I want every possible thing enumerated in as much detail as possible. That's just my mind. Maybe it's an INTP thing in part. Who knows.

But for me I think in a word, I think few things sum up so much in this game than the word and concept of investment.

Investment applies to you, it applies to her. You want to make her invested right? I assume this is a male to female board but the same would apply in reverse. I also don't like being too technical with words to describe dating and investment is getting borderline depending on usage. I don't like to engineer anything and be creepy. I just like to describe what is, what happens and to debug thing when they don't work, otherwise try to be natural and be a decent human being.

But investment has been my bane. If you invest prematurely, you are off sync with the investment timeline that has to happen, and you lose control of yourself. Not in any major way. You may behave as a perfect gentleman and have impeccable manners and honor, but you bleed something all the same- microexpressions or signals or whatever.

There is an investment timeline. Not that you have to think about it but it has to be satisfied.

When she gets invested, everything gets easier.

Sometimes there is a lock, like a life lock on your heart that messes with you, closes you down to different things (good women). I'm not trying to be too sentimental but this is a fact.

I just think we have to take investment (emotional investment) in a thing as serious as we do our financial investment, and also consider like we do their the concept of risk, which is real. Courage is great, but it is not exactly the same thing as putting your life savings on the roulette wheel. Don't let anyone shame you for assessing risk. Fools rush in.

I believe attractive men don't get laid or get wives because of malinvestment. Either they are overinvested, their desired ones are underinvested, they are off on their investment timeline or they are just plain locked for whatever reason and their hearts are closed off in a way to new connection. Maybe they have been since life, since childhood. That doesn't mean they can't be opened - and I recommend parts work and just plain writing and journaling (you'd be amazed at what that can do and what that can pull up and unlock) but I think that's the main thing, and I hear nobody in real life every say much about the concept of investment. Maybe after the fact they might, like "dude bro you're way too invested in her" but it is always too little too late for such a powerful idea. It comes from the heart, primarily. Sometimes you have to be conscious, of both her and your investment. Conscious and honest. Then you can be a man, a full bodied man.. it seems like and then living and relating really start in earnest.

Those are just my thoughts, my 25 cents due to inflation.