Is this a good start?

BusStation16 · 2012-04-16T22:18:20+00:00

I'm going to go out every night for at least 20 minutes

I went out today as my first time but did not approach a single set.

I think it would be better if instead of doing "at least 20 minutes" you stayed out until you made at least one approach. It would be quite easy to just go out drink one beer every night for 2 month and never make a single approach.

arkitip · 2012-04-17T04:02:45+00:00

You don't need a wingman.

bigweiner · 2012-04-16T22:29:11+00:00

( I have no wingman)

I still find approaching to be very difficult if I'm alone

You don't have anyone that would go out with you? Being with a friend makes things a lot easier. Usually I just go to the bar with my buds and once I feel drunk enough or in my zone I start to make my rounds.

If you're having trouble approaching women maybe just sit down at the bar and talk to another dude. Getting some practice talking to strangers is always good. You also could meet someone that could be a friend, and maybe would go to the bar with you. Also if you're sitting and chatting with someone at a bar it will make it easier to talk to a girl. She might sit next to y'all or he might encourage you, but in my opinion a bar pick up is pretty difficult when you're by yourself.

2012-04-17T03:01:51+00:00

Most of my friends are either in LTR or social penguins, so I only solo. I can share some things that have worked for me.

I found some nice local bars that do good food during the day and started to frequent them mainly do get to know the bar staff, doing it when the place is quieter. Not only will this improve your DHV in these places, it is also a good way to practice talking to strangers. If you get to know them well enough you will always familiar person to chat too, and one that won't get in the way.

Pick different types of bars, I have some with that do great pub food and usually have live bands on ever night and cocktails bars with DJs. The more choice you have the better.

Cocktail bar will usually have at least one cocktail geek, get to know them well enough about their interest and they might make you their guinea pig. Interesting and usually cheaper drinks, great indirect opener too :)

Bar managers/owners are an amazing source of social contacts. Unlike most bar staff, who may be doing it as a temp job, managers/owners are in it for the long haul and usually have a good idea of what's and who runs them. Handy way to get on guest lists and meet people running/performing at events. Bar staff are decent sources, and they sometimes work in multiple places, but I've always gotten better things from more committed staff.

Bantering with the staff is also a great way to open sets that are near. I recently F-closed from a 3 set of German girls by getting them to help me troll a friend behind the bar.

Run a tab and make sure someone is on that knows what you drink and will pour it with a nod or hand gesture. 80% of the time you will get served quicker, either by them or them getting someone for you. The other 20% of the time you'll get the curse of being friends with the staff, your the last to get served when it's really busy. This may depend on how friendly you are with them.

Keep track of your tab and NEVER forget to square it up before you leave!

no_dating · 2012-04-17T06:54:34+00:00

Wait. Are you going to bars for some practical reason, or because you truly enjoy yourself there? Unless it's really your idea of fun, don't limit yourself to night venues. It's an expensive lifestyle, and the same women will be more willing to give you time of day outside of the night scene!

Since it sounds like you haven't made a single approach yet, start small. Be friendly, curious, and outgoing. When you see someone reading a book in public, wearing a shirt with a message you like, or whatever excuse you can make up to talk to someone, go do it!

Title	Is this a good start?
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Date	April 16, 2012 9:16 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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