Is this Approach Anxiety? Please help

DaygameCode · 2024-08-18T15:33:24+00:00

Yes, it is anxiety speaking to you in your head, and you need to listen to it or else anxiety won’t let you approach.

Anxiety is only trying to help you avoid fucking things up, she is warning you that she thinks you are simply not ready to handle potentially uncomfortable social situations on the street unless you are with a “wing”.

Now why does anxiety think this?

Anxiety thinks that supermarkets and malls are places where people generally expect social interactions, even brief ones. There’s a shared purpose—shopping—that makes interactions feel more natural or justified.

In these environments, it’s easier for anxiety to rationalise striking up a conversation because you’re both engaged in an activity that involves some level of social interaction (e.g., asking for recommendations, advice, or help with something related to shopping).

In the street you don’t have that type of justification, which makes anxiety feel that approaching there might be an unwelcome intrusion.

Streets are also often more unpredictable environments, which can heighten feelings of vulnerability and a fear of judgment. In the street, people are often on their way somewhere, and you might subconsciously assume they’re not open to being interrupted.

This can make you more anxious about how they’ll react, and your mind may build up scenarios of rejection, being reprimanded for maybe doing something inappropriate, and being embarrassed

When your wing is there, anxiety can relax a bit because the pressure can be shared between you two. If things go wrong, you can rely on your wing to back you up and steer the conversation. This shared pressure makes it feel less overwhelming as your friends is kind of like a safety net.

The wing also gives you reassurance that you are not doing something that bad because after all you have a friend who is accepting of this. And people tend to feel more safe when they are part of a group than when they are alone.

TRTJimBro1 · 2024-08-18T14:45:44+00:00

Sometimes approach anxiety is that smart voice inside of your head that says “dude, don’t be a weirdo creep stopping girls on the street like you are about to sell them drugs or a subscription to Verizon Cable”.

Title	Is this Approach Anxiety? Please help
Author	Pretty_Spare7024
Upvotes	1
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Date	August 18, 2024 1:12 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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