Hello Seddit. For a while now I've been self doubting myself. I tell myself I'm going to approach plenty of women but I make excuses. "She is not going to be comfortable with your race. you need a hair cut, or you're not dressed nicely today." I try avoiding those drawback thoughts and tell myself I will still give myself a chance.

Then I think of the date. I tell myself I won't be successful with a total stranger and my boring self. She might want more. What if I don't impress her enough and I'm not filled with jokes.