It feels like everyone else but me is hooking up in clubs

ThrowawayPUA · 2016-10-09T12:35:45+00:00

515k4 · 2016-10-09T09:19:24+00:00

Does girl get IOI from you? Super-important: Do you smile? Do you feel relaxed and comfortable? Do you go to clubs with goal to make out or to simply have fun?

Stop comparing yourself with others. Don't wait for IOI and just approach.

recyclablebanthas · 2016-10-09T10:11:19+00:00

I have no idea why I feel like this but swear I see it. At university currently.

Sounds like you're stacking the deck against yourself. Confirmation bias + ignoring anything that would contradict this idea.

I see guys shorter and fatter than me making out with decent looking girls, and here I am at 6''2 and in-shape/well dressed not even getting a kiss. And most of these guys don't even approach.

Something is happening, even if you're not aware of it. This shit isn't magic. You don't scatter the chicken bones to get a girl. You socially interact.

And, as you say, if girls are going to those guys you describe, then there's obviously a piece of the puzzle you're overlooking. Because girls don't really approach much usually and when they do, YOU fit the profile of the kind of dude they'd step to.

So you're probably scaring them away.

I make eye contact in the club but I NEVER get IOI's, I don't get girls giving me ''the look'' that is described on this sub and that my friends get.

The look? What bullshit is this? Eye contact IS an IOI. Good god man, you're sinking yourself.

The good news is that this is all fixable from within yourself.

I don't think it's because of my looks,

It's not.

because since losing weight a girl who knew me from before said I should be ''pulling a lot of girls'' but maybe she was BSing (although she had no reason to as I was not her friend before).

Cut this crap out. Maybe she was BSing? Maybe you need to cut yourself a break.

I have no idea why I feel like this, every time, I see people at the club making out with each other but not me.

Do you like dancing? What are you doing, just standing around in the corner?

monkeyman114 · 2016-10-10T03:09:16+00:00

Thats why they're at the club. Its like going to a bowling alley and complaining about all the pins getting knocked down. Of course its happening there. If a girl looks at you, try smiling. Nobody likes a 1000 yard stare, girls think its a serial killer look and guys see it as a "I'm gonna kick your ass" look.

happykoalabur · 2016-10-10T03:59:05+00:00

Are you on Nofap?

happykoalabur · 2016-10-10T04:01:43+00:00

Also, you're trying to qualify yourself. stop doing that. You have to know your worth, then you can effortlessly interact with a girl and have it be fun relaxed.

Hblockie · 2016-10-12T00:42:31+00:00

When you give or receive IOI's are you smiling, dancing, having fun? You want your presence to draw her in, and feel comfortable.

Secondly a move that's worked for me extremely well since starting to game, once you've got that signal, you walk up smile, hold out your right hand, spin her around and while your hands up in the air (Your arm should be coming behind your head) place her hand on your shoulder. This creates imediate kino (You've now also drawn her closer to you), room for you to be cheeky and act like she's the one chasing you.

Now, you can also now move your hands to her hips and lead the interaction. Usually a girl in a club is there for 1 thing..

Don't get stuck on one girl for the night though, keep practicing IOI's and dancing.

Title	It feels like everyone else but me is hooking up in clubs
Author	askerman97
Upvotes	0
Comments	7
Date	October 9, 2016 5:32 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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