So I joined the sub some months ago but just started my journey at the beginning of may, I tried taking it slow but firm, I didn't try to cold approach from the get go but I tried hanging out 1 or 2 hours at the city center asking people questions, simple stuff like asking for a dog's name, asking directions (gotta say I am shy and honestly even this was not easy, I mean it wasn't hard but it's like a rusty hinge, needs some oiling up), I have not been doing this daily cause of uni and cause I still am lazy, my goal was that if I am not studying, doing house chores or eating I need to be practicing my social skills (and after this is donde for a 1 or 2 weeks then start working on my game).

Thing is that for the first time, I got a date (I have gone on dates before but it was mostly the girl who did the work) not through cold approaching but from online "dating" (it's more like a friend making app, like a mix of instagram and tinder), today I took a good shower and went out. I was nervous, my mouth felt a bit dry and the girl was like 15 minutes late (not a big deal cause I also arrived late and honestly the planning I did was wack), finally I met her and we went to a shopping mall, I didn't do much planning, basically I just had invited her to have an ice cream and then plan on the go, but it went kind of smoothly. I think we vibed well, made her laugh, teased her a bit cause she was whinny about her allergies (no critiques just teasing) finally I accompanied to her house. There was some light contact like rubbing shoulders, knees, sharing our ice cream and stuff like that.

Overall I had a good time, but I still think I lacked the balls or even the spontaneity to just go for the kiss, I think there were a couple of good moments like when she was talking about her lipstick and I think that's my biggest problem, I am shy but once I get going, I can become much more social very quickly but still going out of the "friend" bubble is hard for me. We probably are going to hang out again and what I will try is to make up my head of what I want to get from the date (apart from just a good time), I will try to be more consistent with my "small approaches" and go out at least once a week to party so I can practice just being bold with a girl.

Just wanted to share this and ask for some tips of the experienced guys on the sub dealing with these kind of "limits" I place on myself (I wasn't focused on making out with her, that's why I think the date went smoothly but I think there was some mutual attraction so maybe I could just have gone for the kiss), maybe you could tell me about "second date tips". In the end I know it's all about getting into the right mindset, knowing what you want to do and having the balls to do it but any advice would still be appreciated.

Have a good one