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[–]MichaelBravo 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Guys, just go for it.
agreed, and good job for approaching, but here's some observations for improvement, imho:
I thought you were really pretty is a terrible opener. Oh, apologizing is also a terrible opener, which is what you started with (I don't mean to catch you off-guard). Then asking if she'd "like to talk some time" is the third mistake. Never get a "yes-no" question in there (this is a basic sales thing, never give a potential client a yes or no option, give them a "Do you want your Ferrari in black or would you prefer white?"
but I have a boyfriend!
This might be a lie, you don't know because of the awkwardness of the exchange.
In a case this like always find a common ground or make a joke so that you can actually converse.
Don't tell a chick she's pretty right away, this is something you say once you're already fucking her, or at least making out and want to escalate to fucking. I'd say as a general rule, if she's at least partially naked, it's cool to compliment her looks, otherwise, find something genuine to compliment, like her skills, talents, personality, etc.
Don't start off with any version of "I'm sorry," as this is beta behavior and signals weakness, always assume that any sane person, male or female, would be happy to chat with you for at least a minute (assuming they aren't putting out a fire or doing brain surgery or something...if you're waiting for service, riding an elevator, waiting in line at the club, whatever, like she's not going anywhere, of course she's going to want to talk...if not, let her tell you.
And as far as asks go.....look, if you have a very limited time, like she's about to get on a bus...well you have nothing to lose, but don't say, "I'd like to talk sometime," just hand her your phone with Insta opened and say, "I'd like to follow you," and assume the sale...i.e. who's not going to give you their instagram?
If you have more time, then yes, of course chat and chat and then maybe ask her to coffee or dinner or her phone number, but even then, I'd say, if you're talking nicely, assume the sale here...."Let's grab coffee sometime" is not so good....it implies weakness, better, "Let's grab a coffee tomorrow at the Starbucks across the street or would right now be a better time?"
She's still got the option to say no here, but she's also got the option to say, "I can't right now, but maybe tomorrow."
In which case you can say, "I don't do maybes, but if you're free at 9 (or whatever time) I'll be there, what's your number (or in my case, it's "What's your Whatsapp?")
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[–]MichaelBravo 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link