Women want men to concede that women have sexual power over them. A stubborn man can never give them the gratification. The conventional strategy to win the power struggle is to affect indifference. That is effeminate behavior.

Avoiding hard work communicates that work is meaningful. A man should strengthen himself through experience so that hard work and persistence are effortless and meaningless to him. This way he can do the necessary work to win over a woman without conceding that he suffered for her.

A woman accustomed to avoiding work may not realize how effortless it is for someone accustomed to it. She may believe the man has humiliated himself for her. Her belief that she has power is intolerable in itself.

I propose a radical strategy to prevent a woman from believing a man has conceded that she has sexual power. The strategy is to be romantic in an over-the-top way. This strategy is for men who like being romantic and don't have the poker face used to act cool or affect indifference.

My solution is to put so much effort into women that they realize I act romantic as a hobby and they have nothing to do with it. I want to smile into their eyes and have them know I'm playing a game of solitaire. I've made a graph to communicate that when effort is well above what is appropriate for a woman, she can no longer use it to measure the man's perception of her sexual power.

http://imgur.com/1R4LKov

I have yet to implement this strategy, but I plan to. I can't confirm this, but I am a very attractive and intelligent man. I'm also attracted to obese woman. My intention is to make the disparity between the actual power of the woman I'm with and my own power and the way I treat her as huge as possible. I want to utterly overwhelm a woman with kindness without ever acknowledging or leveraging the gigantic power disparity.

Like Frodo the Ringbearer, I despise power so I want to have it all to myself so I can choose not to use it. I wrote this post in a bitter tone, but my intentions are good, and I would never acknowledge any of this to a woman who loved me.