I have a kino problem that seems to be a brick wall that I cant get over. When drinking its no problem at all. Sober is a different story. Looking for some suggestions.

Background on me: 24, hooked up with 10 or so girls mostly one night stands.

Backstory: Meet hb7 out one night, have great conversation, get her number etc. Date 1: take out for diner and drinks (drinking date), light dancing no kiss or anything. Date 2: baseball game and dinner (no drinking) nothing really on the touching aspect. Date 3: Engagement party for a friend(drinking date), take her back to my place, kiss her and have sex. Just the back story that brings us to my current problem.

So this is Date 4: I had pretty much given up on this girl as a relationship potential just because she isn't really a fit for my current lifestyle, but decided to give it one last shot. Take her out to dinner and then bounce back to her place to watch a movie. We had not been drinking, which creates a problem for me but whatever. At this point I was thinking I was golden, However I am actualy homosexual and cant touch a girl. So we are watching a movie ( the interview) on her couch and her and I are coddled up under a blanket with her laying on my sholder. My intention was to start making a move to escalate towards sex, but I couldnt figure out how to do it. I wanted to start giving her a back rub, but couldn't find the guts. I tried asking her questions to get good eye contact going to kiss her, but that didn't work. Eventually the movie ended and I hung around for about 5 mins hoping some spark would fly. It didn't, and I took my sorry ass home.

Tl,dr: I don't have hands