So this is kind of a double post. I'm here to both offer advice and ask for advice. So lets get into it.

First things first (and this is important): Being physically attractive does not get you laid.

It certainly helps, but its not going to be the defining factor in whether you get laid or not. Trust me. I'm speaking from personal experience. I'm 6'0, muscular, and good looking (I know this because I've been told by more girls than I can remember. Also I just know). I'm 23 years old and I've had sex with 3 women. Two of them were long-term girlfriends and only one of them was hot. The hot one was a slut and I just got lucky.

I think understanding this is very important. Attractive guys that lack self-confidence or game are not getting pussy. I'm one of them.

Next thing: Knowing and doing are two COMPLETELY different things.

So I've read a lot about PUA, seduction, understanding the "game", and girls in general. I've read books, listened to podcasts, watched video...and the sad thing is I honestly feel I have a strong understanding of how this all works, but I've still made countless mistakes that only an amateur would make. More mistakes than I care to admit. I've blown chance after chance after chance with hot girls. In fact, I'm pretty sure I just blew yet another chance with a 10/10 yesterday (unless a miracle happens).

So listen carefully: Knowing how the "game" works and playing the game properly are two vastly different things. You can have all the information in the world but if you don't put it into practice you will never see results. There is no getting around this. If you want the hot girls you have to develop your game. And that doesn't mean just understanding, it means DOING.

On to number 3: Your friends define you.

If you want to be an alpha male that gets hot women, you need to hang around alpha males. I've wasted YEARS hanging around the same guys that get absolutely no pussy and have game that is weak as fuck. Women judge you by the company you keep. I've literally had multiple hot girls straight up ask me why I hang around these guys. And being the beta male that I am, I try to justify myself and start overthinking it. It makes you look pathetic when you have to justify yourself to a girl over anything. Especially the people you hang out with.

I know I could have handled these situations differently and more confidently but it honestly shouldn't be something you even have to deal with. If you're hanging around losers girls will peg you for a loser. Plus, alpha guys know girls. If you're looking to meet girls, getting some friends that know girls is a super easy way to do so.

A few more things I'd like to say quickly (things that I've fucked up and done countless times):

  • DO NOT SEND LONG TEXT OR FACEBOOK MESSAGES. Instant turn-off. If you have something you really need to say CALL THEM or do it in person. Sending anything longer than three sentences just makes you look desperate and pathetic.

  • Same thing goes for drunk texts/messages. DONT DO IT (usually). Unless you've already built up some very solid rapport with this girl, its not a good idea. And if you must, keep it short, sweet/funny. No emotional shit.

  • Don't send multiple messages in a row. If you send two messages in a row and she doesn't respond, STOP. You should honestly stop at one but two is the absolute limit. I know you want to send another one but fucking DONT. Type it on your computer in a word document, write it down, do whatever you gotta do but do not send another message. She'll respond eventually if shes into you. If she doesn't, wait a couple of days and try again. If she doesn't respond to that, shes not into you. Move on.

  • If shes giving you signals GO FOR IT YOU FUCKING MORON. The longer you wait, the less interested shes going to become. The worst thing that can happen is you get rejected. And yeah, that sucks, but if you do nothing that's essentially the same thing. And if you get rejected by a girl who you thought was giving you signals, then you probably just need to work on reading signals better.

  • Stop putting the pussy on a pedestal. Hot girls know they're hot. Complimenting them all the time isn't going to get you laid. It makes you look just like every other beta male trying to get into her pants. Its okay to compliment them sometimes of course but if you're texting her every morning saying shes beautiful, you're gonna look like a scrub. Stop idolizing hot girls. They're people. They have flaws just like everyone else. They take shits just like everyone else. Once you start treating hot girls like you'd treat anyone else, you'll notice you get a lot more attention from them. And thats because you're one of the few guys who isn't treating her like shes gods gift to the world just because shes hot.

And FOR THE LOVE OF GOD do NOT let yourself get overly-attached.

This is my #1 problem. I literally always get overly-attached to women and it absolutely RUINS my chances every single time. This is where my question comes in. How can I stop this?! I find myself literally obsessing over almost every hot girl that shows me any attention. This is a huge problem because it causes me to throw all my knowledge of the game right out the window. It'll make me do things like over-text or send long messages. It'll make me do all sorts of things that just make me look pathetic and even though I know I'm making all kinds of mistakes, I get so emotionally invested in these girls that I do it anyway. This one single problem has cost me dozens of opportunities. I think back on some of the chances I've blown and I want to fucking die. I've had incredibly hot girls basically throw themselves at me but because I get so overly-attached I just come across as needy and desperate as fuck. If you're reading this, please do not let this happen to you. It will cost you greatly.

The girl that I'm talking to (the 10/10 I mentioned earlier), is honestly a slut. She sent me nudes the first day I started talking to her. Phone sex the next day (she lives a couple hours away). I know this girl is an attention-whore (posts all kinds of slutty photos on facebook) and honestly not a very good person. But I STILL found myself falling for her. Ignoring all of the terrible qualities she has and treating her like shes a fucking queen JUST BECAUSE SHES HOT. I ended up getting pissed off yesterday when I saw she uploaded a Facebook photo where shes basically half naked looking like shes begging for a dick in her mouth. Her phone is kind of broken so I sent her multiple long-ass messages bitching and moaning and looking like a desperate beta loser. Her responses were lackluster at best and I asked her to call me multiple times but she didn't. I havent heard from her all day today.

Dont let this happen to you. Honestly, if a girl wants to be a slut, just treat her like a slut. And dont fall for her. You'll get her pussy and she'll be sad and lonely one day but its her own damn fault.

Anyway, thanks for reading and I hope you all learned a little bit from my mistakes. Also please feel free to offer me some advice on how I can stop getting so attached because I honestly feel like I can't help it no matter how hard I try.

TL;DR: There is no TL;DR. Read it or don't.