I’m probably writing this not for you, but rather for myself as I’m still not over this girl that "rejected" me. I’d like to think that once I’ve laid this all out and have rehashed everything that happened (and not happened), things will go easier on me. These points don’t necessarily reflect where I screwed up, some are just common sense. Anyway, here we go.

  • Don’t use pickup lines. They are for idiots. Man up and behave like a normal human being and not some sort of internet jerk. Chances are, you're not the first guy ever to approach her and she heard all the lines you might've googled.
  • If your inner game is weak you sabotage yourself. You have to get in a special mood. Not in a mood of the best person you are, but rather in a mood of a person who is miles better than yourself in every way imaginable: who is looking better than you are, who achieved much more, etc. You must be perceived as someone who can provide without a doubt. This all leads to being confident. [On some dates I felt extremely anxious, scared even, because I wasn’t confident. I cared too much about fucking it up. It affected my appearance enormously. I’m still beating myself up for this]. Quick tip that I discovered: find yourself at your absolute best (beat someone tough at sport, watch your favorite band live, what-have-you), and at the highest moment, when you're feeling euphoria, you need to quickly associate this moment with some particular smell. You may use a new fragrance for this. Smell makes for a very powerful anchor and every time you smell that scent, it will bring back the state you were in. I personally use a fragrance and one brand of french wine which has a distinct taste and aroma.
  • You have to convey a VISION to lead and women crave to being led. You don’t necessarily have to live a life of your dreams, you just need to talk about it and express your goals and desires in life. You all know that a lot of girls are into successful athletes (be it in high school, college or adult life). What struck me is that the same girls are into athletes who are not necessarily successful at the moment, but have a potential and may become them.
  • If you’re not fit, fucking go a gym. If you wear glasses, get rid of them (some girls may find them cute or whatever but subconsciously it’s a sign of weakness). Get a good tan, but don’t overdo it (tanned people in western world are perceived as more rich/successful).
  • Don’t spend a lot of money on her. I spent more money than I care to admit to go to fancy restaurants and it went nowhere. I once witnessed an average looking guy having a date with a gorgeous girl at McCafé and I was absolutely amazed at this. Don’t give her any gifts (except if her birthday is approaching).
  • Don’t be afraid to crash in to her life. Talk to her in social networks, leave (funny) comments, like her Instagram posts. You have to be EVERYWHERE so that the girl becomes comfortable being around you. Don’t cut off communication for several days in a row.
  • Express your desire in her as early in possible. State clearly that you like her and what you want from her.
  • If for some reason the girl cuts you off, don’t act like a maniac and phone her every hour/send ridiculous messages.

As for me, I sometimes acted like an idiot, cut off communication for days, didn’t express clearly what I wanted from this girl. At first she was really into me, tried to set up dates herself, but over time it dimmed, sometimes she didn’t care to respond to my messages, and after a while she started to act as if nothing happened.

We went on a couple more dates and I still chickened out and didn’t tell her that I liked her and what I wanted from her. I tried to call her two times several days ago but she didn't pick up the phone. She recently cleared about ~50 friends in her contact list on facebook, including her ex, but for some reason she left me there. I still wonder why wouldn’t she just delete me if she ignores me.