I see a lot of self-pity post I understand this might feel like the odds are stacked against you like there is something you don't quite get that everyone else around you does. And you are right to assume so and you come here for guidance. The best guidance unfortunately lies somewhere more subconscious when exposed to your fears weather that it is to speak, touch or connect emotionally. So how do you get exposure answer is anywhere the more people the better but that is what you fear the most the eyes of the many. Luckily for you they all fear the same thing they are scared to embarrass themselves. (spotlight effect https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spotlight_effect)

So it all comes down to making the decision in the moment this isn't something completely rational that is why no advice can really truly suddenly make this all easy or make sense. Somehow you have to change your flight/freeze and fight response to press forwards be more assertive to gamble all in on yourself. Cause your life is finite and you need too make the most out of this time don't worry about the past or future but what you are doing NOW. Don't overthink it just go for it.

But what do I say?/Where do I meet women? Anything /Anywhere

GET MILEAGE don't think that this is all going to suddenly work perfectly like there some magic words that just make someone fall in love with out or what to fuck your brains out.

Learn to appreciate the little things and make a effort cause no ones holding your hand your already brave enough. Best of luck you got this!