Common people and even game gurus always talk about attraction and how to get female attraction?

Is this exactly where we should be looking, and what is attraction anyway? It seems like a vague catch all bucket, and as a man who struggles with dating and game but who's been told ad FN nauseum he's attractive and who senses he gets "attraction" early and often, or often enough, this concept is dead to me, is bs. What is "attraction" anyway? Feels of interest, sure but I propose to break down what a man should want into a basket of more useful and precise categories. I may not have a good track record of dating (full disclosure) but I am wicked smart and a good thinker- and my advice has helped my friends in dating and relationships so take what you will.

Attraction to be replaced by one or many of the following (I can't think of consice 3 syllable words to describe exactly these more important concepts):

  1. trust generation
  2. respect generation
  3. attachment generation
  4. openness/consideration
  5. arousal/excitement

Not how do you attract but how do you open a woman (not open a conversation with a woman but open a woman? how do you generate respect in her for you? Now I'm not saying one should be able to do any or all of these things with any given women you meat, having super skills. I'm simply saying we could replace the focus on 'getting attraction' to the extent we choose to have that focus in the front or back of our minds, or in our every day speech and writing, with getting respect, getting a woman to respect you etc. I also get that there are manifold types of respect, or trust, and even these definitions could be expanded but I think they are more valuable and useful than 'attraction'.

thoughts?