Lets get straight to the problem. I am an now 18 years old international martial arts athlete that have been competing on the highest level possible for my whole life. I had a fantastic girlfriend that I loved and couldn't see a future without, I say us as perfect really. My future was bright, when I finished school, which I do next year, I was offered the offer of my life to live 100% of my sport as a pro in another country.

At this point, my life was perfect and I have never had so much confidence and self-esteem as I had at that point, but that would unfortunately change..

I competed at a big tournament 3 months ago and got knocked out like never before and was unconscious for around 1-2 minutes. I started to get problems with headaches and I suddenly couldn't take strikes to my head without losing balance. My career was over... I lost my social circle and I now have to rebuild a new one.

On top of that, my girlfriend left me 1 month later, making my life even worse. My self-esteem and confidence has dropped rapidly and I have never been as low as I am now in my life.

I've always been traveling with my crew and other martial artists, so that's been my only real social circle that I have got, but unfortunately that has now been lost too. It was hard for me to socialize in school, because I couldn't go out with everyone getting wasted every single weekend because of my sport.

I've been trying to get over my gf, but it's really hard because we still at like best friends talking to each other every single day. I've tried dating other girls, but when we start getting close, I start thinking about my ex, which fucks everything up once again.

I am really bad at flirting and are always getting friendzoned, which makes it hard for me to pick up girls. I see the biggest problem as nothing creating enough attraction and therefore I would love to get some advice on that.

Furthermore, I would love to know how I can improve my self-esteem and confidence once again, because I can easily see that an insecure and a guy with no confidence doesn't attract girls and doesn't have fun.

Questions:

  • How do I learn to create attraction?
  • How do I reclaim my confidence?
  • How do I forget about my ex and move on?
  • How do I build a new social circle?