I've been struggling with finding a balance between being a nice guy and a complete asshole for a while now ever since I recognized my problem of being the typical nice guy; you know the kind that does nice things for women to get in their pants. Its not like I did it consciously either, I was just conditioned to be like that. As I started picking it up and began my recovery I used a quick shortcut that helped me overcome my problem that I still find myself using today from time to time.

Every time I find myself doing something nice/kind to a girl, I ask myself "Would I do the same for a dude?", if the answer is no, I'm being a manipulative bitch, if the answer is yes, then I carry on.

Its a short but sweet trick that's put me on track to ditch being manipulative and I hope it helps some of you guys out too!