3 or 4 days ago, I went out with a close buddy of mine and another guy who we have been hanging out with (very good looking guy with a lot of positive energy). I respect him for that and I appreciated his company as I am trying to learn from people like him. We went to Funk night at a local bar. The whole bar was full of girls and guys having a blast. I went in with the mindset of getting a girl and around 12:30 I left without saying anything to anybody. I was disappointed because I didn't connect with any ladies. I bought cigarettes and went home and sulked about it. Ive been reading a lot of good literature. For example, No More Mr. Nice Guy, Mode One. These books really helped me understand that dwelling on the negative feelings from this type of night out isn't very important or beneficial towards being happy and getting what I want. That night I let it all go. Fast forward to last night. I hit up one of my good friends ex girlfriend to go get a drink and hang out. She lives in my community and we were quickly on our way to latin night at a open balcony bar in downtown. She is a cool girl and I didn't want to be anything more than friends. Anyways, she taught me how to dance and we had a lot of fun together. I could tell that she was attracted to me by the way she was dancing with me. I was calm, confident, energetic, and happy and I could tell she liked my company. The best part for me was being able to get in touch with my feelings and get out of my comfort zone. While dancing with her, I noticed a group of 4 girls dancing amongst themselves and oner REALLY caught my eye. I felt legitimate attraction and I felt that she wanted me. We made eye contact and I smiled at her like i had never done before. I wasn't afraid that I was being creepy. I felt that she wanted to dance and talk to me as bad as I did. I had no fear and if my "date" had managed to find someone to dance with other than me, I would have gone up to her and asked her to dance. Makes me smile just thinking about it.

Main thing I learned: - dont go out with the goal to "GET" a girl - Its about having fun and being happy and comfortable with people.