Need Advice

UnparliamentaryTea · 2019-02-15T02:34:27+00:00

Breakups always suck but I think your specific struggles are two-fold.

Firstly, when anyone leaves your life, whether you stop speaking with them or they die, it’s going to take some time to adjust and center yourself with it. You’ve only been apart since November, which is a decent amount of time but probably only enough to let the initial sting go away (and I doubt having the holidays right then made things any easier). Don’t rush anything, let yourself naturally evolve without her.

Secondly, you lost confidence. It happens after a breakup, especially in your circumstances, and it sucks. You don’t really have a sex drive because, quite frankly, you see yourself as having less value than before. You gotta focus on self improvement. Do the things that make you happy, fuck what other people think. Make yourself be social even if it means forcing yourself out of bed. If you don’t feel like flirting then just become friends with pretty girls you meet. They’ll always have friends they could set you up with too. Other people see the value in us even when we don’t see it ourselves, so I find this very important to the process.

Finally, hold your head high and know your worth. Our perception of ourselves gets projected onto others. Treat yourself as a king, and the people around you will begin to notice

Hunchowill · 2019-02-15T05:56:27+00:00

Honestly just get out of bed take a shower put on your flyest fit and walk out your door with confidence... your ex made the biggest mistake of her life. There’s a reason that girls have been flirting with you.. and you deserve to be happy

bill77777 · 2019-02-15T13:05:29+00:00

Time heals. You need to accept that you can't change the past so dwelling on it doesn't help. Be aware of this and when you find yourself thinking about the past, stop yourself. Force yourself to look forward and visualize what your happy future looks like. Then do something.... Even the smallest thing to work in that direction. Also, find a hobby or activity, workout, take walks, ride a bike, etc. Good luck.

Title	Need Advice
Author	vqt2
Upvotes	3
Comments	5
Date	February 15, 2019 12:44 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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