Chaps, I'm in deep and I need some options because I'm starting to over think this shiznitz.

I'm currently gaming this girl that I've known for about 10 years, we've never quite got it together in the past as she's always been faithful to her boyfriends (a girl that always has a guy), and I've always been involved with someone else or transient.

This year we've hooked up a little more, she's moved into my hood, and the couple of times we met have been sweet, she's very naturally into gaming men, and I have to steel myself to not get caught in her web or appear needy, but I think I'm on top of it so far.

She's basically just split up with her last long term, and she's in a phase where she's thinking about staying single, getting over her last bf and just collecting herself together, I met up with her last weekend and got her to go on a date with me next weekend, until then I said I'd leave her alone and give her her space to get herself together.

So last night I'm out with a buddy and she walks into the bar to meet a female friend of hers, so she joins our table and her friend turns up and it's a party of 4, we're all chatting things going well, I'm 95% talking to her friend and we're getting on like a house on fire, high-fiveing, kino, it's all good and I catch out of the corner of my eye that my HB is noticing. I leave her talking to my buddy, he's a good guy, has a long term girl, and would only give me value if questioned so I trust him to talk to her all night.

Times up at the bar we've sunk some tequilas and head back to her friends place, just the girls and I, basically conversation and booze, HB starts to fall asleep then leave, I leave after her and notice she's left her bank card behind so pick it up, and then head home for the night.

So this morning I call her, we laugh about how late we're going to be into work and I tell her I have her card. she's got this house party this weekend, she's already invited me to, but I wasn't going to go as I was giving her space until next weekend, but she suggests that I come round, I have another house party in the area on the same weekend so I say she can come and pick it up there.

Do I go to her house party anyway or at least pop in? We've always had good chemistry, but I reckon she's close to JBF-ing me, so how do I get her to take me seriously, and peak her interest before our date next weekend? Is it worth firing her a few messages today joking about last night? How do I battle this whole, need some time after a break-up thing?

tl;dr: gaming a HB that's gaming me, how do I win?