Just had this aha moment today and while it might be news to some it really connected the dots for me. Neediness is a symptom of low self esteem, not a character trait in itself. I have been making strides lately and feeling a lot better about myself, but yesterday I fell back into that insecure mindset and saw that I was getting more needy. I realized that when you have a healthy self esteem you aren’t needy because, naturally everything you do is non needy. While it is good to do a google search to be aware of, and implement non needy behaviors. It is only a short term fix. It can’t be maintained in the long term and you will end up killing yourself trying to act a certain way. If you truly want to be non needy you have to have self esteem.