Rate yourself in each of the qualities below on a scale of 1 to 10. where I is completely deficient in the trait. 5 is average, and 10 is perfect. Judge Yourself not as you see yourself but as you believe others see you. Try to be as honest and realistic as possible. Write your answers in the spaces below.

Looks

At the beginning of the Challenge, you learned that looks have less to do with your physical features than with how you present yourself. Rate yourself on your grooming. posture. eye contact, whether you stand out in a positive way. and if your style attracts the type of women you want to he with.

RATING: ___

Adaptability

Ever notice that uptight men tend not to do well with women? This is because they aren't adaptable. Rate yourself on your adventurousness, spontaneity in- dependence, risk taking, social intelligence, flexibility, and ability to handle stressful situations and environments.

RATING: ___

Strength

Strength is the ability to protect a woman and make her feel safe. Some men display this through money or muscle, but those aren't necessary—and often aren't enough. So rate yourself on being an effective communicator, having a powerful frame, living in your own reality. your ability to take care of others, and criteria such as assertiveness, leadership ability. courage. loyalty. decisive- ness, and self-assurance.

RATING: ___

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Value

As you learned on Day I-I. value is one of the key criteria people look for when deciding whom to align with. Value actually consists of three elements: what you think your value is. what she thinks it is. and what impartial observers think it is. Rate yourself on the degree to which you're the leader of a social circle, admired by others, able to teach people things, and comfortable displaying high-status behaviors. Other criteria include being intelligent. interesting, talented, entertaining, successful. self-sufficient, and creative.

RATING: ___

Emotional connection

This is the home of rapport and abstract concepts like chemistry. It's about possessing qualities that make people feel excited. connected, comfortable, and understood around you, as if they've just met a best friend or soulmate. Raw yourself on your success in finding commonalities with strangers, creat- ing deep rapport with people, being in touch with your feelings. listening closely to others; and on criteria such as compassion, positivity, selflessness, and empathy.

RATING: ___

Goals

Goals are defined not by what you do but by your ambitions and what you're capable of doing. Rate yourself on the clarity of your goals. dreams, and hunger for life. You can measure your potential to achieve them by determining if you possess traits like stability, efficiency, perseverance. and the ability to learn quickly.

RATING: ___

Authenticity

An authentic person is happy with himself and embraces even his imperfections. Rate yourself on your congruence--the alignment between the face you show to the world and what you're really like on the inside. Keep in mind that having contradictory sides to your personality doesn't make you incongruent. 'lining a duality, contradiction. or complications can make you more rich and compelling as a person. But being phony, insincere, or disingenuous does not.

RATING: ___

Self-Worth

This may he the single most important attribute here, and the wellspring from which most of the others flow. Rate yourself on your sense of confidence and worthiness, as well as your lack of fears and insecurities about yourself. Exam- ine your willingness to take up space as you move through the world. how well you accept compliments, how comfortable you are when other people pay attention to you, and how much you deserve the devotion of a woman of the highest caliber. Do you truly believe that you're entitled to the best the world has to offer?

RATING: ___

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Total Score (all eight categories): ___

In the months to come, your long-term mission is to boost your score. It's much less work to attract the best women when you are at your best.

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This is from Rules of the Game by Neil Strauss.