Night game questions

recyclablebantha · 2014-06-07T05:30:59+00:00

After a few nights in the club I have no problems approaching girls. A simple "mind if I join in" on the dance floor has worked for me for now. However, I have trouble working my way forwards from there.

I'd say that you have better ways to open than verbally saying, "Mind if I join in?" Posing it as a question carries the assumption of being uncertain with yourself and about the situation in general. Verbally opening on the floor at all, often interrupts the flow of fun: people are there to listen to music and dance, not strain to listen to the words of a stranger.

You can open with your eyes. Scanning the crowd and looking for eye contact can be great! You wait until you get some eye contact and then hold it until they give you a positive or negative response.

1) How to keep a girl from bailing on the dance floor?

She's all in, seemingly having fun and encouraging my approaches but suddenly she just leaves, saying she needs to use the ladies room or get a drink or any other reason. Should I just follow like a puppy or be cool about it?

You don't keep her from bailing. People stay until they're not having fun with the situation anymore. SO if it's fun, you don't have to "keep" anyone from bailing, because they'll stop themselves.

2) How to isolate/escalate from the dance floor?

As I said, I've no problems with approaching, but I just can't seem to move on from dancing and some kino/groping on the DF. Should I try to lead her to get some drinks, have a smoke or some other activity?

Why do you need to go have drinks, or do some other activity, before you kino on the dance floor? That's WHAT dance floors were made for: kino. You can easily meet someone and be kinoing and making out in less than a minute, in some occasions. It's all a matter of how comfortable YOU are with it.

3) Am I approaching this whole thing wrong?

Should I even approach girls on the dance floor? Is it too easy to just waltz in and have a good time, getting physically close to girls without actually building any rapport beforehand?

You are making this too complicated. It appears that your self-doubt is making you uncomfortable, which makes them uncomfortable.

OF course it's easy to get close. That's the point. You build rapport while dancing though. It's not like any steps are really skipped. You still have to pay attention to know when they want you to slow down or speed up.

Also, when you make eye contact with them, that's the beginning of the rapport building process.

Title	Night game questions
Author	ViperWhiskeyTango
Upvotes	9
Comments	2
Date	June 7, 2014 2:12 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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