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No courage at all when it comes to approaching

patrick_luvs_LSD · 2019-12-16T21:33:45+00:00

So I've been recently hitting up the beach by myself and just can't seem to put myself in a position to talk to any girls. And going out bar...

patrick_luvs_LSD

December 16, 2019

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Title	No courage at all when it comes to approaching
Author	patrick_luvs_LSD
Upvotes	4
Comments	3
Date	December 16, 2019 9:33 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ebljsz/no_courage_at_all_when_it_comes_to_approaching/
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[–]lady_third_nipple 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]patrick_luvs_LSD[S] 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]lady_third_nipple 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

There is no one size fits all for this. It just depends on the girl. Some girls are not very nice and some will actually help you carry the conversation after you just say hi. Put your mindset of there is no expectations. Like if you are at the market or at work you are not talking to these girls expecting to see them again romantically or them coming home with you just because you had a conversation. That should put you at ease. Another thing that should put you at ease is that before you even talk to a girl she already made up her mind if shes attracted to you before you even say hi. So you are not talking to her so she can be into. She already knows inside her head if she is or not. Nothing you will say will change that. It can be different attraction from her, Your goal is not to fuck it up after you already said hi. If she responds warmly and asks you questions back she’s into you. If you are getting short one words answers. Walk away there is NOTHING you can say to get her to be interested. It’s NOT YOU , like I said she already made up her mind before you approach her. The girls response to your approach should tell you if she’s into it or not. If she’s talking back laughing connecting with you or she’s giving you short answers. Buying her drinks will not change her mind. She will take the drinks and still not respond. Use your environment. Complement her( use words like beautiful and stunning and don’t use words like sexy and hot) ask her questions and actually listen. When she’s responding to your questions actually listen and pick a few things from her response to bring up casually later or follow up on. Let’s go back to using your environment to help you. Like you said at the bar, just say hi introduce yourself complement her and ask her if you can buy her a drink, if there is a pool table ask her to play if you know how ask her if you can show her. If a band is playing, bring up something about that. Apply what I said above if she’s talking back then it should get easier because she’s talking back and you have something to work with. If you send her a drink don’t approach her, she will come to you. Ask her. Look at the girls she’s with, are they celebrating something ask her what are they celebrating.. my point is use your surroundings, her response and don’t have have expectations. Don’t be overly aggressive or try to impress her buy putting someone else down including yourself. Don’t over think it. Hope this helps.