Non-reactiveness vs displaying full range of emotions, I need help in regards to this concept

kbls · 2013-05-27T04:14:50+00:00

I'll take a stab at this and others can correct me if they disagree, or elaborate. Don't be reactive to shit tests. If your gut tells you that what she just said was designed to fuck with you, or if you otherwise feel something really getting under your skin, flatline it. In basically all other contexts, let your natural human emotions flow and don't suppress them. It tells her that she can't get you riled up, but you're otherwise demonstrating that you're a whole person with your own flavor, feelings, desires=fuckability.

ThrowawayPUA · 2013-05-27T02:24:46+00:00

You must have seen the same YouTube video of Tyler that I saw just yesterday. I remember him talking about now women like drama. I fucking hate drama, I had girlfriends that were drama queens. I think the trick here is to control the drama on your terms.

PUAchuckit · 2013-05-28T01:59:56+00:00

On some level, you're always going to be reactive, or what's the point in interacting with another person? I think the main thing to try and avoid is certain emotional reactions that the girl you're talking to intended. More than anything else avoid insecurity about your own statements/views, etc. I like to think in terms of 'what if this wasn't an attractive girl?' If what they have to offer in non-sexual terms elicits an emotional reaction, then that's OK, but if you find yourself reacting differently than you would with, say, one of your friends or maybe even more accurately a guy you just met, you're probably reacting to her attractiveness and that's generally not a good thing.

I think the key is to have confidence in your own ideas and your own emotional reactions to situations, not a fake confidence that's turned on like a switch, but one that's built up over time involving introspection and self-evaluation.

Lastly, part of what ties into the 'full range of emotions' idea, is having the confidence to elicit a negative emotional response from a girl. Sometimes in order to not be a doormat, you're going to make people upset, and that's ok.

Title	Non-reactiveness vs displaying full range of emotions, I need help in regards to this concept
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Date	May 27, 2013 1:28 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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