Oneitis vs Chasing

rusty84 · 2014-01-13T19:32:44+00:00

If she's not interested its oneitis

And from my sad experience, chasing hardly ever works. In fact the opposite, it makes you feel like shit because of the desperate shit you've do sometime, and the fact that she couldn't feel more indifferent about you. :/

puaCurveBall · 2014-01-13T19:37:08+00:00

Onetis is when you are putting one girl above any other girl. if you think she is "special" or "different", then you put pressure on yourself to make things work with this one girl.

You can chase all you want, as long as you would feel comfortable losing this girl and know that you could be chasing 4-5 girls and none of them are any more special than the next.

HappyJerk · 2014-01-13T22:27:22+00:00

Don't ever "chase" a girl. You meet a girl, you get her number, you call her and ask her out on a date. You can call one more time if you want (just to show you are serious) but after that you are done. There is no chasing.

Alexfortomorrow · 2014-01-13T21:58:41+00:00

If your investment > her investment, it's Oneitis and you should GFOTW.

If your investment = her investment, you can keep chasing her.

masterrod · 2014-01-13T23:05:38+00:00

I think you're asking the wrong question.

Chasing is all about game and strategy. If she's giving nothing at all, then you're chasing. But you must realize you might get her, but your effort is going to be great. And success puts you at a disadvantage, because she will rule the relationship. Some girls take 6 months-2 years to crack, but if she's not inputting at all you'ree failing.

There will be girls that you want, but aren't available, so you must make a plan to win and be realistic, don't chase.

You should never feel shitty if you do something and it doesn't' work, no matter what. Say you chase a girl for 6 months, you get nothing. You learned, so go after someone else. Go after 5 girls, whatever.

Oneitis doesn't mean you don't want a particular girl. It means you're unrealistically trying to advance a girl and not pursuing other women. You must remember you always have a chance to re-approach a woman, and things can change. And connecting with her and then disconnecting with her can be very powerful.

Title	Oneitis vs Chasing
Author	ifinterlooper
Upvotes	11
Comments	7
Date	January 13, 2014 7:07 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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