Im someone who hase had anti seducer traits. Typically this was a result of anxiety, but the anxiety was typically fueled from my belief that thinking would give me the ability to figure out my anxiety with questions like “why am I anxious” and “how can I stop being anxious” and “what l style should I follow” and all that expectable but counterintuitive thought patterns. In reality the strength that you need comes in strengthening your ability to focus on whatever you will yourself to focus on by pushing yourself out of every thought you want to ruminate on that ultimately fuels anxiety more.

Someone who is constantly thinking from a place of anxiety is antiseductive, even though we try to use thinking to cope with anxiety.

The best way to cope with anxiety is to practice strength in correlation with a pivotal truth. That truth being that while you may want to ruminate over things in order to help you arm yourself to finally seduce in a competent manner, the answer is in realizing that mental strength is key and universal when it comes to success anywhere and comes not from thibking out of anxiety, but realizing that you dont have to fuel anxiety with thoughts that you thibk will help but that actually empower it.

This realization is valuable, because many dont realize that the thoughts they get from anxiety are thoughts they want to thibk to solve anxiety. Your ego wants to figure a way out of it. The way out is mental strength.

What is mental strength? Mental strength is when you have something your will your intention on. When a distraction appears, your ability to become aware of the distraction, the speed at which you become aware of it and the strength you can muster to push up out of it to focus on your intention is what quantified mental strength.

To becime seductive you must learn how to meditate.

An example of how this has applied to me. When I would approach people I would be consumed with fear and anxiety, which is fine as its something you cant control, only your response to it. In this consumption I would start thinking to cope or I would think and think of what I should say with calculations rather than having awareness and control over my focus to not being weighed down by the anxiety thats ruining my ability to flow in conversation by fueling me with thoughts. Without the training from meditation I wouldnt have the strength to push back against the weight of distracting emotions and thoughts nor would I have the awareness and wisdom to spot when its happening so I can come back to my intention.

The key to mental strength is in having one focus, and no matter how tempting and rational it feels to think to figure something out to solve anxiety, you simply have to push up out of that pattern and then deal with the part of you that is going “stop ignoring the art of me that wants to thibk to solve this scenario”. When you push up out of that and focus on what you will yourself to you develop a crucial ability in not just seduction but in life, and that ability is the ability to control where you focus with strength that is built from the experience of repeatedly becoming aware of a distracting thought and pushing past that inclination to feed it by working to focus on what you have set your intention on.

For example, if you see someone you wish to talk to your mind will cope with the anxiety associated with the thought of approaching with things like “what if she doesnt like me” or “my hair looks bad, not a good time” and so forth. Those who are immature in meditation will entertain the rationality of these thoughts. I did this often. For many many years. The strength comes in dealing with the discomforting feeling that “I have to think to solve this scenario but solving the scenario is found in letting go of this need to think about it so I can internalize to myself that nothing is strong enough to overrun my focus. With meditation and a set intention, you will train your mind to not entertain the thoughts, and to try and push yourself out of the patterns associated with those thoughts ti then come back to your intention.

The way this helped me is that when I speak to women its not that I dont thibk, its just that Im aware of anxiety and make the decision to choose to focus on the person, the conversation and what I want to say rather than focus on feeding thoughts that come from how I feel about it. As a result I am more spontaneous without trying to be and my exression flows far more naturally without the weight of neuroticism.

This is mental strength. Why would you not want mental strength?