I was simply practicing getting into state where girls respond positively. Female co-worker asked for my number and went out on a date. This simply is a document on how I got there and what I did on the date. I hope this post helps someone.

TLDR: Before I opened my car door and walked into work everyday. I took a deep breathe and said to myself, I am awesome, and I am on the journey to becoming more awesome. I did that for weeks. Said hi and have a good weekend to everyone possible. Suddenly, I started making eye contact with some hot new hires at my company. One of them asked me for my number when I started talking about my weekend. On the date, we talked a lot there was a very awesome k close (kiss). I never had a kiss that good before. I am curious to know how others keep that state where you feel like the alpha.

Working in State I work at a company that isn't necessarily friendly to the idea of relations with co-workers beyond friendship. So, I did what any person would do, I just decided not to give 2 craps about it and practice being in state. My expectation was that I would simply have better interactions with the people around me. So, before I would hop out of the car, I would say to myself, I am awesome and I am on the journey to becoming more awesome. Sometimes, that would trigger a memory of some cool guy that I met in the past who seemed like he owned the place. I repeat that I had no expectations of picking up a co-worker. I don't believe it would have worked if I had focused all my energy on getting one person.

The building is quite a large but the office space is small enough that it takes only a few minutes to walk to the other side. I would walk through the open cubicles and office desks lined up in the office and say hi and good bye to everyone like I was a movie star. Head held up high and searched the room for anyone making eye contact while waving like I won a pageant. Felt awesome. I kept it up for a few weeks. Then I noticed that a few of the female coworkers started paying attention and I was getting eye contact.

(HR Girl) One girl from HR/accounting was making eye contact, but I didn't want to pursue that girl. If she came to talk to me that is another story, but I analyzed the risks and know that prefer keeping my job over picking up a girl. She said hi to me in the hallway. I waved hi, smiled like she made my day and didn't bother pursuing the conversation further. Now, every time I see her we make eye contact. I always smile of course. I now believe it had the opposite effect than I had intended... o well. I am curious to see where this leads but that will have to wait until another post. I would rather tread carefully with this girl of power.

(Hot Date Girl) There was a another girl in a lower position than me. I would see her sometimes outside on smoke breaks since it was on my way to the other side of the building. She would always compliment me on something that I was either doing, holding, or wearing. I said thank you and would often simply walk away, but if it was something I hold dear to me (like my bluetooth headphones) I would start a conversation on it. I picked my conversations with her. She had some candy at her desk and told her that it was awesome that she would give away candy for everyone in the office. I told her how nice she was and how bad I felt for taking advantage of the candy although I would always be smiling when I said it. She would always smile back when I made eye contact with her. If a problem in the office came up, I told her I would handle it in cool and calm manner and acted like an alpha male in the office. This happened for two weeks. On one particular smoke break, I asked about her weekend, she started talking about how she had a friend she wanted to meet with and was excited to see. I told her that I go out almost every weekend to different places to meet with people. I figured why not ask if he was a boyfriend. Then she started talking about how she didn't have one now after she had moved and then asked for my number suddenly. (I thought to myself... on the road to becoming more awesome). I kept eye contact whenever I talked with her and smiled at the things that I liked. If I didn't like it, I ignored it. It seems that was the right approach.

Before the date, I didn't have a definite plan and made sure that she knew that. She said, "Ok, I am good with that." I interpreted that as "I trust that you know what you are doing and that whatever comes up regardless of the circumstance you will be able to handle it." I told her awesome. I found out later in conversation it was the way I handled stressful situations at work with her around that triggered this response. My cool manner, not whether or not I actually fixed it. The funny thing is, the problem I tried to fix is probably still an issue. We walked and chatted for a bit before I randomly stumbled upon a bar that was managed by a friend that I haven't seen in awhile. So we stop in.

I had ordered a simple beer (never get drunk). She had gotten two drinks. I had trouble getting ketchup out of a glass bottle. She taught me how to get it out easily and I validated her with a big smile and said "wow that cool I didn't know that." My friend came by and we talked like we had just seen each other yesterday but re-iterated that it has been at least a year. She saw that and said he was very friendly and a bit dorky. Thank goodness, that means I looked cool and friendly next to him. That helped keep my state a lot. We talked about her past and I simply shared the parts of my past that was in a similar time period. It was different from hers so she was particularly interested. She payed the bill. I said it was cool of her to do that. I actually had to argue to pay for the tip lol.

We get out of the bar she wanted to get drinks at a particular bar. She like that bar because it had the drinks that she wanted. She didn't want to go to the dance club. I started thinking that she either wants something to happen or she really trusts me to take care of her in her drunk state. On the drive to the other bar, she started talking about how she likes the "young adult" stations or the 90s/2k music. We sang together and looked into her eyes while I did that. I told her I didn't like a particular song because it reminded me of an ex and she changed it within a fraction of a second. She was really trying hard to show that she cares and validate herself to me. She showed me how to get to the other bar. I made fun of her ability to guide me because I was amused that a drunk girl was guiding me. She laughed a lot about it and she made fun of my soberness. She appeared to like me in control.

At the next bar, she brought up her history about her exes cheating on her. I just looked away as she talked about it. Tried not to be too responsive about it. When she paused to look at me, I started a conversation about something else. At one point, I grabbed her on the opposite shoulder to bring ourselves close together in the booth to show her something on the screen. She responded with a laugh. She didn't pull away. In an awkward silence, I excused myself, and told myself in the bathroom that I am awesome and I'm on the road to becoming more awesome and walked back in state. Triggered state like a champ. She drank a lot more and I only had one drink and a water.

Before we left the bar, I told her that I had an awesome time, and I leaned in for a kiss. She kissed back and started talking about airbags. lol. It was amusing that it was the first thought in her drunk state after a kiss. I made fun of her for it and she laughed with me. Before she left my car to head into the house. She gave me one last kiss. The best kiss with tongue that I have had yet. I sat there for a minute catching my breathe while waving bye.

Bad points and things to improve: I had lost my state several times. There may not always be a bathroom or an excuse to get away to exercise my trigger. I'm wondering how others trigger that state where you feel awesome. Also, because I won't act on it, how should I lessen the attraction quietly from the first girl in power. I would rather keep my job.

Good Points: I am not sure how long I will need to post here at the rate that I am going with this hottie. I was able to trigger my state successfully using a particular method reliably, first one that I consciously remember trying. I showed how strong my reality is by not having a true plan. I simply lived in the moment and enjoyed myself while reacting instinctively to her.

Conversation Threading How do you turn a girl down quietly without hurting feelings? Are there other ways of keeping that state that work?